Having read about relationships, examined how some individuals run theirs, studied people who have had fruitful or failed relationships, and experienced what a conjugal relationship is from my parent’s marriage, I have reached the resolution that marriage is what you think about it, and the sort of individual you wed decides your conjugal experience.
Whether you’re a believer or an unbeliever, educated or stark illiterate, carnal or spiritual, rich or poor; you can either experience a successful or a failed marriage. Your marital success is first a matter of your mindset and then your decision – of who you marry and their mentality and who you involve.
From the Book of Beginning, you’d figure out that there were two kinds of marriages, and all marriages practiced in the world fall within these categories.
The first kind of marriage you’d see is the GENESIS TWO kind of marriage.
Taking a cursory look at it you’d find out that it was a union of a helper and a help meet. Adam was attending to the assignment God gave him in the garden, while the woman was made to be his suitable helper.
Knowing what God has called you to do on earth decides the sort of individual you will wed. Many have matched themselves with some unacceptable individual since they wedded for pleasure instead of purpose.
It would be practically difficult to have a faithful and committed spouse when they’re hell-bent on pursuing pleasure outside the four walls of your marriage. This kind of people scorn their wedding vows just for the sake of satisfying their sensual cravings.
Besides, in G2 marriage, God was the third individual who was permitted to have something to do with the association. They for the most part make some decent memories with God in the cool of the evening. When God unites you, who do you permit to impact your marriage? Most relationships fail due to the interruption of an outsider.
In the event that you permit some unacceptable individual into your marriage, they will annihilate your association and it would be past time to understand the harm they’ve done. In any case, in GENESIS THREE marriages, Satan came and made the lady sin against God.
Be mindful so as not to permit any outsider impedance that would endanger your conjugal delight. Keep in mind, what God has joined together, let no man put asunder. In any case, Satan exploits many through their ignorance to destroy their marriage.
Satan won’t come with a blackface, haggard look, and pointed claws to present himself as the devil; he uses men (or women) to ruin marriages especially when the couples are unwise. Be not ignorant of his devices lest he take advantage of you.
Besides, you’d find out that in G2 marriage, the man and his wife became one flesh, but in G3, they lived differently. Adam told God, “The woman who you gave me”. She was no longer, “The bone of my bones.”
Might it be said that you are living with one another in unity or you have been separated by ego, wrong mindset, education, a third-party, ambition, exposure, status, wealth or influence? Anything you permit to obstruct your becoming one is exactly the same thing that would put both of you in two.
In G3 marriage, you’d likewise figure out that there was a gap between Adam and his better half, and it was this gap that turned into the passage for Satan. Where was Adam when Satan beguiled his significant other?
Friends, you need not be with your spouse 24 hours in a day, but ensure there’s no gap in communication, knowledge, growth, and understanding. It’s a huge responsibility and this can only be possible when you grow together.
The essence of becoming one with your spouse is beyond sexual intimacy, growth can only be achieved when there’s oneness. Never forget that a house divided against itself cannot stand. When there is a gap between the two of you, growth and oneness is impossible.
If you’d experience a G2 kind of marriage where God is at the epicenter, then you must pursue the fulfillment of your divine purpose, marry a partner that can be of help to its realization, trash out the poor mindset that would destroy your union, and do all it takes to ensure that you’re one flesh in deed and truth.
Genesis 2 or Genesis 3 kind of marriage? The choice is yours to make. Make the right choice now!