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Everybody has a dream, or better put, everyone dreams. Some dreams come to pass while some never manifest in the physical realm. It’s not enough to have a dream. What are you doing to see it manifest?
A successful marriage is not achieved by dreaming alone. It is also not a fantasy world where everything is like a magic wand, which you wave and your wish comes to pass. Successful marriages require efforts such as love, forgiveness, sacrifice, and selflessness, amongst other things.
However, no marriage is destined to succeed when those involved fail to do what will make it successful. Every marriage can fail if you apply the wrong principles. For instance, assuming you and your spouse are a match made in heaven, but you both disregard the principles of love and submission, your marriage cannot succeed.
Mind you, having a dream of a good marriage is a great start to having a successful marriage if you can make it come true. It doesn’t matter the kind of upbringing you had or how bad your parents’ marriage was, your case can be different.
See, it doesn’t even matter if all the marriages in the world fail, your case can be different if you want to enjoy your marriage rather than endure it. It all starts with a dream, doing and having what it takes to bring it to pass.
Jesus was born in a manger, but He did not die there. Jabez was destined to be great, but he was born in sorrow. Do you know he did what it takes to come out of it? Brother Joseph had a dream. Thank God he ran away from the offer that would undermine his dream.
What’s your dream marriage like?
A marriage you’d enjoy or endure? A union where you experience bliss or glitch? If your dream marriage is realistic and would honor God, it’s possible to have it come to pass.
To dream of a successful and blissful marriage or see your dream marriage come to pass, do the following.
1. Write it down
Do you know that the pen is mightier than the sword?
The first instruction God gave Habakkuk was to write down the vision in the second chapter of his book. Writing down your dream translates it from your thoughts to paper so you can absorb it in your mind.
When Moses received the Ten Commandments, he was told to write them on the tablets of stone. But in the long run, they were told to write His commandments on the tablets of their hearts.
Don’t just have your dream marriage in your imagination as a mere wish or fantasy; let it be impressed on your heart.
2. Run away from dream killers
The forces that don’t want your dream to come to pass are greater than the forces that want it fulfilled.
One would have thought that Joseph would have had a rollercoaster ride toward the fulfillment of his dream. Thank God he ran away from the fornicating offer his master’s wife gave him on a platter of gold.
If you don’t run away from dream-killing relationships such as a boyfriend and girlfriend parole, cohabitation, toxic relationship, or you’re dating (whether it’s Christian, online, blind dating, single, or multiple), your possibility of having a dream marriage will only be a mirage.
Run away from anything or anyone that will prevent your dream marriage from coming to pass. Meanwhile, if you don’t envision any ideal marriage, you can do what other NFAs (No future ambition) are doing and have the same marital experience as them.
3. Involve Him
If Joseph had had no regard for God, his dream wouldn’t have been actualized. Fear God, and keep His commands. This is the first thing to do. If you offer mountain-moving prayers, pay your tithes and offerings, attend weekly services regularly, or serve in a church department, but you lack the fear of God, it’s only a waste of time and resources.
Secondly, trust Him to bring your dream to pass; don’t try to fulfill it. I remember when I had the revelation of who to marry. I thought I could fulfill it myself until I discovered that only God can bring one’s good and godly dreams to pass.
God will not do everything for you to bring your dream to pass, but you must do your part while you leave Him to do His. Let Him lead and guide you. Yours is to be sensitive and trust Him.
Lastly, on this part, involve Him prayerfully and invoke His mercy. Remember, it is not of him that wills or runs, but of the Lord that shows mercy.
4. Wait for it
Every dream or vision has its appointed time of fulfillment. Whether your dream of a blissful marriage was from God or it’s your godly desire, there is a time it would come to pass.
If you believe you’ll have it, then wait for it. Did you know that waiting is one of the hardest things for humans to do?
Don’t jump the process. If you believe it will come to pass, wait for it. God promised Abram a son, but because they could not patiently wait for it, his wife pushed him to have a son from her handmaid.
When the appointed time comes, you will never force it to happen. Moreover, lines would fall in pleasant places for you.
Do you desire a godly and blissful marriage? Did you believe you could enjoy your marriage regardless of what has become of most marriages around you? With a pen and paper, describe what you want your dream marriage to look like. Involve God. Stay away from dream killers, and wait for the fulfillment of your dreams.