The saying is true that lots of people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. A tree whose roots have been eaten up by termites would still appear good until the time would reveal that it has been destroyed. This same thing happens to many ladies.
As a man, if you truly love the women folks, you’d feel sorry to see that a large number of them are entrapped in wrong relationships; some are aware, while many are not, yet they rejoice in it.
Do you know that the greatest disease in the world is not the COVID-19 virus? It is the disease of the mind, and ignorance is the leading case.
When a lady fails to gather accurate knowledge that should bail her out of ignorance, she’d rejoice in folly while thinking she’s doing the right thing. Meanwhile, if you’d be liberated from the ignorance that befalls many ladies, then you must provide answers to these four questions that most ladies are ignorant of.
1. Who are you?
An eaglet that fails to know who she is will mingle with chickens when she ought to soar high on mountain tops. When you don’t know who you are, people will use you for what you’re not, especially those men you throw yourself at.
A man will never cherish or treasure you like a queen when you have presented yourself to him as a slave or a sex object.
Why do you think some men treat some women as side chicks or baby mamas and they marry some as wives?
It is when you know who you truly are, and you treat yourself based on that knowledge that you’d escape offers for the wrong relationship. Becoming a feminist is not an indication that you know who you are.
You know who you are based on the understanding of what God has created you to be – purpose discovery. My dear, you’re not a woman because you have two breasts and a vagina; you’re a woman to birth and mother nations.
If you don’t see yourself in the light of this, you’d be looking for men to buy you Domino pizza when you can nurture the greatness in you. But unfortunately, when you don’t know this, you’d be crying because you’re not married or in a relationship, or rather compare yourself with others.
Who are you? I’m not asking for your name, age, or family background, or status. When you know who you are, you won’t be trapped in the wrong relationship. God has destined many of you to be great, but you’re begging a man who should be your errand boy for crumbs because you’re ignorant Of your true self.
If you fail to discover who you are, it’s not God’s fault, you’ll live a life that you were never destined by God to live, but you choose that kind of life due to ignorance.
2. What do you want in life?
Do you have an idea of what you want in life? What kind of life do you want to live as a woman?
When you are ignorant of who you are, you will only live according to fate or circumstances. Why should you be a baby mama, or a full-time housewife when there’s a purpose you can fulfill in life? Why would you live as if marriage is the only essence of life?
There are no great women, dead or alive, who didn’t know what they wanted in life and pursued it. While it may not be bad to be a housewife, live your life to be known for something great, and that’s eternally rewarding.
However, those who know what they want in life would know the kind of relationship they should never keep; not because they’re proud, but because they’re goal and purpose-oriented. See, there’s more to life than having the title of Mrs. Johnson, or that you’d regard marriage as your overall life achievement.
If you want a pleasure-laden life, go for immoral relationships, but if you want to live a purposeful life, keep a relationship that would help you become better, not the one that would destroy the greatness in you.
What do you want in life? If you don’t know it and you’re in a relationship, I’d advise you to quit in your interest and discover it. Remember, you can only know what you want to become in life when you have discovered your divine purpose.
3. What do you want (need) in a man?
Most ladies I know don’t know what they need in a man, or most times confuse their wants with their needs. Wants are temporal, and it is a desire for something subject to mood or feelings. But needs are something you require because they are essential or more important than just desirable.
Did you get that?
You may desire to eat shawarma because that’s what you wanted at the moment, but your real need might be a balanced meal.
Why should you desire a man that is tall, dark, and handsome, when what you need is a man that would groom you to become better in life? But when you exalt your wants above your need, you’d be trapped in the wrong relationships.
That a man makes you happy and spoils you doesn’t mean he’d groom you to be great in life, not all men are bridegroom, most are dream killers.
However, what you want in a man should be defined based on the knowledge of who you are, but if you’re ignorant of this, you’d seek men that would satisfy your transient desires. What most of you need are men that would exhume the innate potentials and greatness in you, not men that would pamper you for destruction.
4. How will you get what you want (need)?
There’s a way to get anything you want in life, it’s either you take the shortcut or you follow the right way.
How will you get the man you need? The likes of dating, cohabitation, and baby mama can’t get you the right man, you will only get the man you want. You can’t even use what your mama gave you to climb the peak of success, you need to know the right thing to do to get you what you need.
The best way to get what you need is to go to the person who can help you get it. Your wisdom and knowledge can’t give you what you need, you need God’s wisdom. I’m sure you know that there’s a way that seems right to a man, but the result is destruction.
If you want a God-fearing man, go to God. Don’t think dating and the use of your instinct would get you such men. Remember, every good and perfect gift is from God, not by the use of common sense.
Do you have an understanding of the four questions I put before you? A random yes is not the answer, but on how you live your life at present, whether it is skewed towards greatness, or trapped in the wrong relationship.
It is when you know the truths about these four questions and you walk in it that you would never be in bondage. Truths set one free, but ignorance keeps many in bondage.