The word “love” is hard to find, I mean, it’s challenging to find someone who loves you for who and what you are.
And of a truth, it’s really hard to find genuine love or to find someone that would reciprocate true love to you.
Why is this so?
We live in a world where pretense, hypocrisy, and “fake” life are the norm.
Many pretend to be what they are not, just to get your attention and affection. But deep in their hearts, you’d find out that they’re pretenders.
The issue of hypocrisy, deception, and wickedness has made love difficult to find. As I mused within myself, I found these reasons why love is hard to find.
1. It’s hard to find love in the wrong place.
Come to think of this, can you find gold in a place where there’s no trace of a gold mine?
You’ll only be digging several places where your efforts and resources would be wasted to find what doesn’t exist in the place you thought you could find it.
You can’t give what you don’t have, likewise your partner.
So, stop jumping from Peter to Paul, or from Janet to Jennifer, in search of love. Love can only be found in the lives of those who have it.
Without His guidance, you can’t find love on social media or in the church. Not everyone you meet on social media or in the church can equally love you. They can also be ignorant of what it is.
So, just as you can’t find gold in iron ore, you can’t find love in the wrong place. Never!
2. You can’t find love in a man or woman who cannot love or is ignorant of what love is.
Not one of us was born with the capacity to love.
We grew up to be selfish, and greedy because love wasn’t wired into the fabric of our souls. Some of us only claim to be in love when our selfish desires are satisfied.
Is that love?
3. It is hard to find love when your mentality about it is wrong.
Many express lusts while thinking it’s the same thing as love. It may be possible to fall in love at first sight, but when you sleep with each other barely a few weeks after you meet, then that’s lust, not love.
It wasn’t even chemistry you had; it was the fire of lust that burns deeply in the chambers of your soul.
You can’t take up the fire of lust in your bosom and you won’t be burned. Love isn’t sex, and sex doesn’t love. Lust burns. Infatuation sucks.
Now, let me ask you: what do you think love is?
Some think it’s by giving or receiving money that defines love. Some people believe it’s when they’re physically intimate with who they’re in a relationship with that shows they’re in love.
Also, be reminded that love isn’t predominantly expressed through gift giving or through financial rewards. A man (or woman) can give you money or things, but that doesn’t mean he loves you. He’s only investing in your life to get a return, sooner or later.
4. Love is hard to find and express if you do not have God’s nature in you.
After the devil, the doer of evil succeeded in tricking Adam and his wife into eating the forbidden fruit, the nature of God in them died a natural death. From that standpoint, everyone who came into the world through natural conception cannot love.
God is love, and He demonstrated that in John Three Sixteen.
You can’t express or understand what love is when you watch movies, that’s someone’s script. The best understanding of love can only be found in His word (Bible).
Because He’s love personified, He gave us His only begotten son. This talks about SACRIFICE. And because Jesus loved the world, He lay down His life for you and me. This is the definition of SELFLESSNESS. And while we were yet sinners, Jesus Christ died for us. That’s UNCONDITIONAL.
Show me how you express love, and I can tell you the kind of understanding you have about it.
5. It is hard to find love when you do not involve God in your quest to find it.
Yes, He gave us a brain and common sense. But living your life without involving Him in the minutest details of your affair is foolishness.
How can you find your way to an unknown island without taking the map along with you? Or is it possible to go on a tour without a tourist guide? That’s exactly what many do when it comes to finding love.
Even if you know the right thing about what love is, you need God to lead you to the right place and person where you’d find love.
I kid you not, love still exists, and true love is real. But the big question is this: do you have the capacity to love? Did you know what love is? Who do you involve in your quest to find love?
Unlearn. Learn. Relearn.
Love is not a scam or a sham. Love isn’t those terrible things people call it. Love is sweet. Love is real, and it still exists.
Only those who have it, understand it and involve the right person to find it even in places where people thought it no longer exists would enjoy it.
Tell me your experience with love in one sentence in the comment section below.