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During the pandemic, several people tested positive for the coronavirus. Some death cases were recorded while some recovered after having been treated. Objects like nose masks and hand sanitizers were used as a preventive measure to avoid contracting the virus. However, vaccines were also introduced to make people immune to the virus.
In marriage, certain things would be tested in you. Previously, I’ve highlighted the likes of patience, understanding, knowledge, and problem-solving skills. Will you be tested positive or negative for those things up there?
It is good to be tested positive for these things because a deficit in these would cost your marriage a lot. However, below are some of the things you need to arm yourself with which marriage would examine.
5. Self-control
This is a broad concept as it relates to marriage. Lack of self-control is one thing that destroys many marriages. It is the leading cause of infidelity, anger, and physical or verbal abuse.
Do you have the ability to control yourself or is it after you’ve lost control that you regain consciousness?
It’s not every time your wife will give you sex. Can you deal with that? Your husband will not always be in the mood, especially when he’s not meeting his expectations.
If you can’t say no to premarital sex now that you are single, you will easily say yes to extramarital affairs in marriage.
Besides sexual intimacy, do you have control over your emotions when situations seem negative? See, it’s not at all times that your spouse will do what pleases you. If you can’t control yourself, you have no control over your life.
Please add self-control to your luggage when you’re preparing for marriage. Even in marriage, you need it because it’s very important.
6. Maturity
When maturity is spoken of, many usually think it’s all about physical, sexual, financial, or mental maturity.
Are you mature enough to overlook things that are not worth giving attention or you’d read meanings to everything? Can you say, “I am sorry” for the sake of allowing peace to reign if you are swift to throw tantrums?
Your level of maturity will be tested in marriage, and the way to excel in this is to grow. Marriage is not for boys and girls, it is for those who have grown up.
Like the Apostle Paul said, “…put away childish things” now that you have claimed that you have grown. You can’t grow when you hug childish things tightly. It is childish to talk anyhow or reason like a child while addressing some issues in life and marriage.
7. Spirituality
To my sisters, marriage will test your walk with God.
If you have not mastered spiritual discipline in terms of having your regular prayer and word study time, the burden of marriage will overwhelm you.
In a bid to do household chores and take care of yourself, the children, and your husband on a daily basis, many firebrand sisters have lost their spiritual fervor.
Now they blame the children for coming late to church programs or failing to maintain their spiritual fervor.
And to the brothers, will you still be a man of the secret place when your wife craves more of your attention or if marital sex will kill your fire?
Chances are high that your spiritual fervor will obey the law of gravity in marriage if you don’t work hard to be consistent in it now that you are single.
Even in marriage, you need resilience to stay on fire for God. Meanwhile, some situations in a marriage don’t answer to financial, mental, emotional, or social maturity; you need to be spiritually sound to address those issues.
As you prepare for marriage, or now that you are in it, do you have enough self-control, maturity, and spiritual fervor to handle the demands of married life? Marriage isn’t bread and butter, but it can be sweet when you have enough of those things it would test. Build capacity; keep building it.
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