If there are no fake or false shows of affection, people won’t be in search of that which is true, unfeigned, or real.
Love is beyond what an average mind can fathom, however, ignorance of it has cost many their life, health, relationships, and fortune. As it is, it’s one of the most popular words, yet misunderstood by those who claimed to know much about it.
In many relationships, the likes of pretense, infidelity, and lies have been expressed and those seeking true love were disappointed, cheated, abused, and heartbroken.
Why is love what it is that some have concluded that true love no longer exists? Well, the answer isn’t farfetched. Who you’re in a relationship with and their understanding of love, including yours determines your experience about it.
For instance, you’d believe it’s a norm, or accept it as your fate when you fall in love with a chronic cheat. More so, if you’re in a relationship with a selfish and carnal lady, your experience with love would be distorted; all because you do not understand Agape love.
Meanwhile, the scarcity of true love does not mean you should settle for the fakes because you can’t find one. True love, also known as Agape love exists, it all depends on where you go and who you consult to find it.
How do I find and demonstrate true love, you may ask?
First, understand the types of love that exist. A quick rundown is as follows.
- Eros. It deals with a sensual form and expression of love that is sexual and immoral.
- Phileo. It’s an expression of love between friends, either same or opposite sex. It was expressed between David and Jonathan.
- Storge. This love is demonstrated between parents and their offspring, and vice-versa.
To find true love, you must go to the right place. You can’t find gold in the mud or extract iron from a mine. Make no mistake to think you’d find true love in the wrong places while using the wrong strategy.
True love cannot be found by dating Jesse or Jessica. You can’t just catch him or her young and you’d expect to find true love. Even if you’re friends with your best friend, having a relationship with them doesn’t translate into true love.
This may sound as being religious or spiritual, but it doesn’t change the fact that true love can only be found in and through God. Quit hopping from one relationship to the other where you repeatedly suffer heartbreak and emotional trauma.
When you find God personally, He would lead you to the person where you’d both demonstrate true love. Do you know that you might not have to read all the books written on love and relationships to understand love?
A deep meditation on John Three Sixteen is enough to rattle every wrong concept and mentality of love in you and transform your life inside out. To think you’d find true love in a man or woman when you’ve not found it in God is a costly assumption.
Find God, and He will lead you to the person who would demonstrate true love with you. If you don’t find love in God, it would be difficult to find love in people. Those who have found God genuinely find it easy to find and demonstrate true love, and they can easily discern counterfeits.
How to find God
- Accept and believe in Jesus
- Know the Holy Spirit
- Seek Him diligently and wholeheartedly
How to demonstrate Agape love
Of all love types you need the most should you desire to enjoy your love relationships is understanding Agape love. If you don’t unlearn the wrong things about love, learn and relearn the truths about it, it would be difficult to express it.
Agape love is God’s kind of love that was and is demonstrated to mankind; if you understand it and it’s mutually expressed in your relationship, you’re blessed and highly favored – it’s a heavenly experience. And to demonstrate it,
- Understand it
- Find the right person
- Mutually express it
Three things that make Agape love stand out from other love types, it’s sacrificial, selfless, and unconditional. John 3:16 is the scripture that perfectly describes what it is.
Truths About Agape Love
👉He gave His only begotten Son. God never gave out what would destroy Him.
It’s not true love when you use your school fees to help your girlfriend or boyfriend, and you couldn’t meet up with registration. That’s silly.
👉Man was still living and undeserving of His love, yet He gave.
👉There was no selfish or carnal decision attached to it; whosoever believes in Him.
Any love that tells you to prove its existence through sex or an immoral act is a scam.
👉The outcome of this love is to make the life of the receiver better, not worse, bitter, or ugly…shall not perish but have eternal life.
True love won’t make you lose your virginity, cheat, abuse you, make you a single parent, compel you to commit abortion, or nurse unwanted pregnancy.
Do these describe your understanding of Agape love? If not, ponder on it until it becomes your reality, and it’s engraved on your personality.
Find the Right Person
It would be easy to express Agape love when you’re with the right person. When two people who do not understand what Agape love is married each other, they’ll ruin their relationship. Why do you think many ended up their relationship in divorce, separation, or domestic violence?
You can’t marry the wrong person whose understanding of love does not agree with yours, and you’d both walk and work together. That’s impossible.
When two wrong persons are married, their relationship is dead on arrival. When the right person marries the wrong person, I’m sure you can guess the outcome of such union.
What makes a person right has nothing to do with their social reputation, financial status, academic qualification, physical appearance, spiritual charisma, or material possession. It has more to do with their heart (motive) and how compatible with each other you are in destiny.
God is all you need to find the right person because your education, exposure, and experience would fail. You can date the wrong person or double date for years and you’d think you’re doing the right thing.
To ladies reading this, be sold out to God that it would take a man who is sold out to Him to win your heart. And to my brothers, be a man after God’s heart that it would take a woman who is sold out to Him to find you.
Dearly beloved, Agape love is real and it exists; it only depends on your understanding of it, and with whom you express it.