Might you at any point envision the result of having a cat and dog burdened together to furrow a field? Consider how weird that is for some time.
That is how a large number of people enlist themselves into the institution of marriage with the wrong person. You’ve heard me say that marriage becomes successful when the right man weds the right woman, yet disappointment is unavoidable when there’s a marital mismatch.
At the point when an ideal man weds the wrong woman, a terrible union is bound to occur, and exactly the same thing applies to a lady. However, when two right people partners in a marriage, it’s paradise on the planet, given they do the needful.
The right person you’d marry isn’t perfect, but despite your differences, you can build a harmonious relationship on the strength of your mutual understanding, application of the right principles, and the involvement of the right person.
Nonetheless, you can never encounter an awful marriage when you stroll down the passageway with the ideal individual. If both of you become the ideal individual for one another, you have a 60% possibility of having a fruitful union.
Who’s the right person and how would I become one?
The right individual you ought to wed isn’t an unbeliever. Do you have any idea that there are unbelievers in the church? The number of times a person goes to the church, or serves in a church department doesn’t change their mind if they have no encounter with God.
An individual who disagrees with what you believe in like your faith, values, or mindset, or doesn’t have a similar attitude with you on a vital issue is an unbeliever.
Turning into the ideal partner is not a one-day, or one time thing, it’s something you should purposely make yourself be. In the interim, it includes a cognizant choice and an effort on your part to see that you become the right person to whomever you’re married to.
The right person is someone you’re both compatible with. It’s not enough to be physically, financially, spiritually, or mentally compatible, you must be compatible in purpose and destiny. This is where many miss it in marriage. Try not to get into a relationship or marriage with somebody you’re both inconsistent in destiny and purpose.
It takes communication and observation to know if you both align in divine purpose, but it takes prayer and revelation to know if you’re compatible in destiny.
There are individuals you’d wed and your advancement becomes deteriorated on the grounds that they convey terrible energy that doesn’t resound with yours. Also, there are certain individuals you’d meet where you both snap in destiny yet you’re not bound to be married.
The right person has the right mentality concerning marriage and the other gender. There are individuals in this age who trust it’s a man’s reality, henceforth, men are allowed to be polygamous or undermine their accomplices. A few ladies accept that they own their cash, however their significant other’s cash has a place with the two of them.
All the more in this way, how you might interpret marriage goes far to decide your involvement with it. Do you believe there’s an exit door in marriage when the chips are down, or do you believe in making it work when things go bad?
You can’t have a wrong or bad mindset concerning marriage and the opposite sex and you’d experience a successful marriage. Transform your mindset. Restore your psyche with God’s word and never be adjusted to the standards of this world.
In becoming the right person, understand that it’s both a journey and a process. It’s a journey you must embark on long before marriage and a process of transformation you must submit yourself to. God has a way of taking us through the process of becoming the right person if we allow Him. The process starts before marriage and continues in it.
Various books would help you become the right person through mental transformation, one of such books is the Bible – meditate, study, believe, and apply the truths you found in it.
With all these indispensable truths you’ve found regarding what it takes to be the right person, what stops you from becoming one?
Hear this, you can’t be the right person when you’re trapped in a wrong and immoral relationship. All these boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are a great distraction and destruction to you becoming the right person. How can you be in this kind of relationship and become the right person when you’re wasting your life pleasing the wrong person? You’d lose yourself in the process.
What sort of man or lady would you say you are turning out to be now that you’re single or married?
A lady shouldn’t only be a virtuous woman whereas the husband becomes a vampire. The husband of the Proverbs 31 woman was known in the gates, not as a troubled maker, but as a responsible man. It takes a real man to sit with the elders at the gate.
If you think your future spouse would accept you the way you are without working on yourself to be the best you can be, you’d remain stale and unmarriageable.
Is it safe to say that you are preparing yourself to be the right person or an awful companion? Consider it.