Why do we usually find true love after making mistakes in life?
Number 1, because we are impatient.
I stumbled upon a verse in Job 7:1 and I was reminded of Job 14:14 (please check). The two scriptures talked about the APPOINTED TIME. I hope to do a write-up on that.
When we become impatient in life, we’d certainly make some mistakes in life we shouldn’t have made.
It takes patience to marry the right person, and it is one of the most important things that would make your marriage successful.
There’s always an appointed time that’s allotted to every one of us in life, but we don’t want to wait for it, hence, we keep trying and jumping from one relationship to the other hoping we’d find the right person.
It is difficult to tell many singles to wait for the right time before they enter into relationships. They’re usually under pressure, or societal intimidation to be in one.
When you enter into a relationship at the wrong time, you’re bound to make mistakes in it. You know why?
- You’re not ready (mature or prepared) for it.
- Doing the wrong thing at the supposed “right time” is wrong.
- Doing the right thing at the wrong time is equally wrong.
If many had waited for the right time,
- They would have married as a virgin
- They would have married the right person without having any negative experience about the opposite sex or relationship.
There’s an appointed time ordained by God for you to:
- Marry. Don’t dabble into boyfriend-girlfriend relationships to look for the man or woman that’s eligible for marriage. Wait.
- Give birth.
- Graduate or gain admission.
- Get a job.
- Be successful in life.
- And so on.
Waiting doesn’t mean staying idle, keep trusting, serving, and believing in God.
Those who don’t wait will waste away or worry so much in life.
Number 2, because we are ignorant of what is called the APPOINTED TIME.
How did Job know that there’s an appointed time?
That your best friend marries or goes into a relationship in April doesn’t mean you’re the next in May, there’s time for each of us in life.
When you don’t know this, you’d be hopping in and out of relationships, hence, you’d make the mistakes you could have avoided if you had waited for your appointed time.
There was an appointed time for Abraham and Zachariah to give birth. Abram whom Sarah told to give a try impregnated her handmaid and that boy became the thorn in the flesh to the descendants of Isaac, even to date.
The love of our life usually comes after we have made mistakes because of our impatience and ignorance. When those two things are in place, mistakes are inevitable.
So, if you haven’t lost your purity, sanity, or learned by making costly relationship mistakes, I would advise you to be patient and when for the right time to be in a relationship that’s leading to marriage.
Don’t let anyone talk you into a trial and error kind of relationship by hoping it would work. You don’t enter the right relationship by luck, it’s something you go into when you have prayerfully, patiently, and carefully found the right person and at the right time.
Till I come your way next time on another Q&A episode, take charge and stay strong.
You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.
