Episode 22: Are All Men After Sex?

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Sir, but I want to ask a question oh is it true that nowadays, no guy whether serious or not can’t be in a relationship without s*x.😷😷😷

She asked.

The truth is that sex is a beautiful experience because God created it and it could be inferred to be among those things He saw that it was good. As good as it is, many do not know there’s a place where it should be done, and it comes with peril if it is done in the wrong place.

A relationship can exist without sex depending on those involved and their understanding of its purpose.

And to your question, a guy can be in a relationship with you without sex, it all depends on what influenced him. There are lots of men that are controlled by their carnal minds, societal and cultural influences. 

Some men wouldn’t crave physical intimacy in their relationship with you because their lives are influenced by God. However, many are controlled by their carnal nature. If you are in a relationship with such men, do not expect them to embrace sexual purity.

More so, your appearance to an extent determines the kind of men you attract. You can’t put on the attire of a harlot and you’d attract godly men. If you dress to glorify yourself, some men would come to gratify their sexual urge through you.

And if you’re decently dressed and they still ask for it, say no and walk your talk. Ensure you do not have the mindset that all men would ask for physical intimacy in marriage. They exist. 

If a man does not ask for sex, a lady too must not think he’s impotent or seduce him into having coitus. Dress to glorify God, and not to exalt yourself or to please people. Don’t position yourself to tempt a man, or incite him to demand it.

A godly man won’t be tempted to have sex with you because he seeks to please God, and not to gratify his sexual urge. Allow Him to guide you to the man He has prepared for you, and don’t allow a man’s physical appearance, personality impression, financial worth, material possession, spiritual charisma, or social status to lead you into a wrong relationship. 

If you want a no-sex relationship, be committed to the same, and don’t seek it elsewhere. Some men believe that ladies who say no to sex to them before marriage gets it elsewhere. You can change the norm. 

Be godly. Dress to glorify God. Say no to men who want to fornicate, then walk your talk. 

Till I come your way next time on another Q&A episode, take charge and stay strong. 

You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.

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