Brother, love, and money are two different things.
Love makes marriage sweet, but money makes love sweeter. It is, however, true love that would make your marriage the sweetest, with or without money.
But never forget that money alone does not make marriage sweet or enhance love. Ask wives of rich men, they would tell you they needed more than money to feel loved.
What is money in a marriage when there’s no emotional security or sexual intimacy? What can be said of love when there’s no attention or affection, but only credit alert?
You can have all that money provides, but not true love, peace, and security in marriage. There are many things in marriage that money can’t provide, I’m sure you know them.
A man should be financially up-to-do to earn more respect from his wife, and a woman too should be contented with what is provided.
There can be love without money, but respect might be conditional, however, in the scriptures, a wife’s respect for her husband should be unconditional. A woman can love you without money, but she must have known that you have something that’s more than money – a great vision.
Meanwhile, if you fall in love with a materialistic lady, she won’t stay with you if you have no dime; she’ll be attracted to the places where the grass is greener – ready-made men.
Dear lady, when you disrespect your husband because he doesn’t have money, it shows you don’t love him in the first place. With the little he has, and his willingness to provide more, you can help him maximize it until he becomes great.
One major influence a woman has is in her ability to multiply the seed that is deposited into her. Don’t just be a woman who can only make babies, or cook good food, be a woman who can convert the little a man has into something greater.
Give a woman a sperm, and with her womb and egg, she’d make a baby.
Be a wife that can turn his ideas into reality.
Be a woman that can multiply his one kobo to become one naira. If you can’t turn one kobo to one naira, how will he become the millionaire you wished to have married?
Be a woman that can solve his problems, not a problem maker.
Be a woman who can support his dreams until he achieves them.
Be a woman who can jolt a man back to life amidst the pressure and challenges of manhood that might overwhelm him.
Nevertheless, one of the shreds of evidence that a man loves his wife is in his ability to provide for her; and the proof that a woman truly loves her husband is in her contentment, support, and appreciation for those provisions he made.
On the issue of women and money, this is an important one.
A woman can love you without money, but her respect for you won’t be what it should be. And some women would only love you because of your money. These are fair-weather women. Beware of them.
Women need security – financial, emotional, and several others – that’s why some look up to men to get it. You’d be more confident in your relationship as a man when you’re financially buoyant than to be penniless.
Dear brother, work hard, be smart and godly; you should be a provider, not a “depender.”
Till I come your way next time on this Q&A episode, take charge and stay strong.
And should you have issues you need clarification on without being judged, or you need counsel and be prayed with, please feel free to send me a mail at firstname.lastname@example.org or ask in the comment section.
You shall know the Truth and the truth shall set you free.