Can a single person marry a single parent?
He asked.
This question is simple but complicated in a way.
You see, there are two kinds of single parents: those who became single parents by choice or by circumstance.
Those who became single parents by choice are those who deliberately made themselves a baby mama or papa. These kinds of people pride themselves on having a baby outside wedlock and enjoin others to do the same.
They do so because they don’t want the commitment that comes with marriage when God said that marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled. How can you delight yourself in what God detests? Well, I’m not a judge. I’ll leave them to God.
See, you can’t even consider marrying single parents who fell into that situation by the choice they made. They don’t want marriage; so if you loiter around them for marriage, you’re only wasting your time.
Some in this category want to enjoy sexual intimacy without marital commitments. They do so because of their distorted view about marriage and they don’t want to be committed to a person in marriage.
Now, to single parents by circumstance. This set of people became single parents because they made a foolish choice at the time of their ignorance. Some made mistakes to become unprepared parents, while some lost their partners to the cold hands of death at an early stage in marriage.
If you marry these kinds of people, two things are involved.
First, some single parents haven’t learned from their mistakes, if you marry them they will become a piece of extra baggage to your destiny; you’ll have to be responsible for everything that pertains to them, even their past mistakes.
Secondly, you might not be a good match as a single brother or sister to marry a single parent in terms of understanding, patience, and maturity. If you’re 30 something in age as a single but you’re 15 years old in maturity, understanding, or tolerance, don’t marry a single parent.
You know why?
They’re not bad, but you may not be able to cope with them in marriage in terms of the agreement and your level of understanding. Some might not have detached from their past relationship and you may not find it easy to cope with such.
Now to your decision of whether to marry a single parent or not, my straightforward answer is this: LET GOD GUIDE YOU.
The way you need Him to guide you if you’d marry a single lady or man is the same way you need Him to guide you if you’re falling in love with a single parent, or you’re getting fond of one.
Because some of them have had an experience about marriage – good or bad – you need His guidance to marry the one that would be a blessing to your life and not a burden.
Single parents are not an outcast, a nonentity, or a mismatch in marriage. I’ve seen singles who are happily married to single parents, not to those who were single parents by their deliberate decision, but to those who became single parents by circumstance and were guided by God to marry them.
So, if you’re considering a single parent for marriage, not a married person, do so prayerfully, patiently, and carefully.
Till I come your way next time on another Q&A episode, take charge and stay strong.
You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.
