This is an interesting question that will surely bless you if you understand the answers I’ll share with you.
To answer your question, there are two responses to it.
No, is the first answer. Does that mean you should go ahead and have illicit sex with everyone? No, you mustn’t.
Chastity (not having premarital sex) alone doesn’t make you fulfill destiny if you do not adhere to principles that would make you fulfill it.
Do you get that?
What is destiny? It is God’s blueprint for your life which has been conceived in His heart when He created you. God has a destiny for you, and the devil also has a plan for you.
God wanted Adam and his wife to rule and have dominion over all He created, but the devil came with another plan to deceive and destroy humanity. The way you live your life now determines whose purpose you’d fulfill.
If you’re hopping in and out of dating or immoral relationships, you can’t fulfill your divine destiny, but the devil’s plan for those who chose that path.
Now, back to your question, a lady may not engage in illicit sex, and her destiny would still be destroyed if she’s lazy in all areas of her life. Remember, the scripture asserts that in all labor there is profit. So, if you do not labor (work) and you think because you’re a virgin you’d be successful in life, or you’d be a gift to your husband in marriage, that’s self-deception.
Mentally, many are lazy to think, physically they can’t expend their energies to work, and spiritually they’re laid back to engage in spiritual exercises or disciplines that would make them fulfill destiny.
Aside from laziness, other factors would prevent you from fulfilling your destiny. First, your mindset and understanding are key. Second, lack of self-discovery is a big issue. And the last one is spiritual problems such as curses and covenants.
What do you think about yourself in life? As he thinks, so is he. Have you ever thought you can make it in life? Has it ever occurred to you that you’re greater than who you are now even if you do not look like it today?
If you’re a virgin but you think of failure, or defeat because of your upbringing, or present life, you’re not likely to fulfill destiny. If you don’t discover who you are, how can you achieve God’s desire for your life?
Jeremiah knew God had ordained him to be a prophet and he went ahead to fulfill what God has written concerning him. If he hadn’t discovered His divine ordination, he wouldn’t have become what He has created him to be.
My second response to your question will be Yes in the sense that if those factors earlier mentioned are not involved, engaging in premarital sex will destroy it.
Assuming God has destined you to be great, you’re conscious of it and you’re not lazy in fulfilling it, if you then add premarital sex to your ambition in every relationship with the opposite sex you meet, your divine destiny will be destroyed.
What do you think would have been the lot of Joseph if he had engaged in illicit sex with his master’s wife? See, he would have remained in Potiphar’s house as a chief servant, rather than become a prime minister.
This is what premarital sex does to you. It reduces you, it adds something into your life, and it takes something valuable from you. You may escape HIV or pregnancy, but you can never escape those damages it does to your destiny, especially when you do not repent.
God created sex, however, when to have it is not a man or woman’s opinion, but His. He said the marriage bed should be undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers, He will judge. Understand this, God is a righteous judge, but if you violate His word, you’d give the devil the legal access to indict you before God, and when He discovered that you have transgressed His law, the devil will strike you.
Are you bent on fulfilling destiny? Embrace chastity and do all it takes to fulfill it – hard work, discipline, diligence, determination, know God and involve Him.
Are you still a virgin? Keep it, and don’t succumb to sexual pressures that want to expose you to immorality. And to your virginity, know God, and strive to fulfill your divine destiny based on the discovery of His purpose for your life.
I hope I have answered your question?
Till I come your way next time on another Q&A episode, take charge and stay strong.