I saw a movie one day on TV and it got me glued to it like a rat is glued to a rat gum. The story, the plot and suspense were perfectly written and played out.
The movie was about a Christian sister who was engaged to a brother whom she knew he was God’s will for her life but along the line, something happened.
Being engaged is one of the awesome moments every single look forward to. The period of being alone, expectant and turning away ‘unserious’ partners have been ended for the presence of the one you have long waited for.
The joy of being engaged to the right person cannot be quantified when it took you a long while to find him or he, however, the happiest person who gets engaged is usually the female folks.
But the joy of being engaged to the right person can also be short lived when some things are neglected.
From the movie, I’ll share some things I learned which you need to pay attention to when you’re engaged to the right person.
1. Beware of the advice of other ‘sisters’
Some of your friends that are myopic or who never saw what you see may talk you out of your conviction. It might not look as if the person you saw has a bright future but be assured that there’s a future if it’s God’s will for your life.
You’ll also get carried away when you can’t see where God is taking you to or where His purpose would get him to. They might even make you see the present that is nothing to write home about his future, but be careful and optimistic.
2. Don’t seek emotional support elsewhere
Who you’re engaged to may not be the romantic type or he’d try to avoid getting emotional so you two won’t be trapped emotionally.
Seeking emotional support or being connected to someone else would lead to emotional infidelity and if care isn’t taken, you’ll end up missing God’s will for your life.
Remain faithful to him emotionally, and do not seek succor elsewhere to the detriment of your life and relationship.
3. Don’t sell God’s will for goodwill
Many sisters would miss God’s will for their life martially because of the unfavorable situation around them with an alternative relationship.
That the brother doesn’t appear romantic doesn’t mean he can’t be romantic in marriage. That he doesn’t know how to speak flawlessly without grammatical blunders or Quince English doesn’t mean he can’t learn or be better than this.
Don’t allow the goodwill of another brother make you sell God’s will for your life and destiny. You may not be able to get a second chance.
4. Beware of gifts
Gifts blind the eye. No matter how little it may seem, it could knock off some senses in you.
Be careful of the person who lavish you with gifts, whether he knows that you’re engaged or not. Learn to be contented with what you have than to covet what you don’t have.
Gift is a bait and could also become a ‘voice’ that would speak to you.
5. Beware of some Christians brothers
…who wouldn’t take no for an answer. They know you’re engaged but they’re wolves in sheep’s clothing. They’re in the church, workplace or in your neighborhood.
They’ll lurk around you to see if you’d give up and accept their proposal. And the truth be told, they don’t want commitment, only to just pass away time with him. If he shows commitment, he’s just a deceiver to get you off track on what God has revealed to you.
Dear Sisters in the Lord, don’t allow your conviction be manipulated by your carelessness. The devil can cunningly make the conviction confusing when you are short sighted. Hold on to God’s leading than to allow yourself be talked out of His will for your life.