One of the things that capture the heart of most Christians, especially singles, is the issue of getting to know the right person without choosing the wrong one. Because they want to avoid marital mismatch, several teachings have been indoctrinated into their school of thought that’s misleading and confusing, even on social media.
There’s a way to find the right person as Christians, and there’s a way unbelievers would do. If you choose to find a partner the way unbelievers do, you can’t get His best.
I’m sure you know how they find who to marry, but as Christians, aside from resting in the Lord, and entering into His rest as I pointed out in the previous series, you need this five-letter word that’s spelled as F-O-C-U-S.
When God created Adam, he wasn’t preoccupied with the thought of getting who to marry, he was focused on the assignment God gave him.
Do you know the purpose God has ordained you to fulfill on earth? Do you know your role in the body of Christ? Are you fulfilling it or are you distracted by mundane things?
If you as Christian singles do not know what you should focus on, especially those things that matter to your destiny, your marital experience won’t differ from the experience of unbelievers.
Adam did not ignore the assignment God gave him but he was focused on fulfilling them – naming the animals and tending the garden.
It is a lack of focus to pursue what God can provide for you. Set your priorities right and it would be God’s responsibility to cater for what He alone can provide.
Can you be so busy with your divine purpose to the point where God would have to intercept or interrupt your plans to bring the right person to you? This is exactly what God did to Adam, and it’s still happening to purpose-minded believers. God had to bring him into a state of deep sleep for the woman to be made.
When you ignore this biblical principle and truth, you’d major in the minor and ignore those things that matter.
God as a loving Father doesn’t want you to live in trial and error before you get the right things in life. This is why He said that you should take no thought about the basic things of life, but that you seek first His kingdom and righteousness so that all these things you desire would be added to you without struggle.
But today, it’s the other way round. Some relationship coach or preacher would expose you to 21 Ways to Attract the Right Person, How to Marry the Man or Woman of Your Dreams. All these make me nod in pity for those who don’t know God and choose to adopt them.
When you’re not focused on the fulfillment of your divine purpose, you’d be distracted by the quest to find and know the right person. The likes of dating, catching them young, marrying your best friend, and those worldly principles are aimed at taking your attention from God, so you can focus and lean on your understanding.
Anything that shifts away your focus from God, no matter how good it may appear would be consequential in the long run. If you won’t be tossed to and fro by the sleight of men and their “another gospel” on relationship matters whose intent in the true sense of it is to deceive, be grounded in the truth of God’s word.
Do you know why God has created you as a Christian brother or sister? If you haven’t, finding a person to marry isn’t the major thing when you’re ignorant of it, but that you should know and fulfill the purpose He created you for.
Hear this, and I would say it emphatically, it is in the place of purpose fulfillment that God will guide you to the right person He has prepared for you to marry. If you neglect your divine ordination and you’re chasing after your problems, you’d end up finding someone to marry, but they would frustrate your life and thwart God’s agenda for you.
Those who leave everything in God’s hand do not worry about anything. When you do what God is supposed to do in your life, He becomes helpless in doing what He should have done.
Quit trying. Quit finding. Quit worrying. Be focused on the discovery and fulfillment of your divine purpose and you’d be surprised to see how God would come through for you when the time comes that it is not good for you to be alone.
Adam didn’t help God or tell Him the kind of spouse he wanted, God saw the need and brought the right person to him. Mind you, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have certain “specs” but that shouldn’t become your idol, neither should they be contrary to His will for your life.
Dear Christian singles, I know you’re of age, and you’re ready for marriage; have you discovered why He created you or you felt that is unimportant? I tell you, if your ultimate goal of becoming a Christian is not to be like Jesus who lived to fulfill His divine ordination, your marriage will make no impact on the earth and in His kingdom.
Don’t worry about who, when, where, and how to find the right person; just be focused on the fulfillment of your divine purpose, rest in Him, and He will care for your marital needs.
I know this biblical principle sounds contrary to what you have heard years ago, but I can assure you that it is the invaluable truth you can buy and apply and it would never put you in bondage which many put themselves in for finding the ‘right’ person without God.
Be focused on your divine assignment. Don’t be distracted by mundane things. Focus on becoming the right person. Remember, you don’t get results by focusing on results; you get results by focusing on actions that produce results.