I bless God for the insight into His truths about choosing a life partner He gave us, especially for Christian singles, and for how this series has blessed those who followed it. May you marry the right person the Lord has chosen for you and His light would dispel every darkness surrounding your knowledge of His will.
Do you know that a good husband or wife is a salary that is paid by God for those who serve Him faithfully and diligently? That was a statement from Mrs. Funke-Felix Adejumo in one of her messages, but the emphasis added is mine.
How true is that statement?
In every labor, there’s profit (reward) but the talk of the lips only tends to penury. No one would serve God faithfully and will lose their reward, however, only a few lose theirs.
Please hear this, it is one thing to serve God, and it’s another thing to serve a church. You can serve God in your church, you can serve Him outside there, and you can also serve your church without serving God.
Some men of God own great churches but their god is their belly. Just make sure you’re in the right church where He wants you to be and you’re in the right department serving Him.
Adam served God in the garden by carrying out the divine task that was assigned to him, he wasn’t a pastor. You might not need a pulpit or pew to serve Him, but the fact is that when you have discovered your divine purpose and you seek its fulfillment, you’re serving God.
Are you serving God or you’ve ignored that to look for who to marry?
Knowing why God created you is one thing, fulfilling it is another. Being single as a Christian isn’t a time to live your life for pleasure, or pursue those worthless things many give themselves to; it’s a time to live for God and His purpose.
See, you can’t live your life anyhow and when it’s time for marriage, you’d marry the right person having messed it up on frivolity.
It was in the place of service that God brought the woman to the man, and he recognized her based on certain indices (I will discuss that in the next series). I haven’t seen anyone who served God faithfully and diligently but missed it maritally.
Are you engaged with the assignment God has given to you or you’ve neglected it to seek who to marry?
Hear this, Christians don’t focus on results, they focus on the action that produces results, and one of them is SERVICE. For instance, when fervent prayer becomes your daily activities, miracles become your daily experience.
In the philosophy of the world, you’d be told several means of how to find the right person, but in God’s kingdom, we don’t find who to marry, we focus on serving God who guides us on who to marry.
Unbelievers are expected to seek what to eat, drink, wear, or who to marry; but as Christians, you are to seek first His kingdom (through service) so that those things unbelievers seek to have shall be a bonus to you without struggling or worrying.
I know this truth won’t augur well with many because even as Christians, they believe heaven helps those who help themselves, however, that’s erroneous. God only helps those who look up to Him for help (Prov. 3:5).
Serving God doesn’t make you stale, or become a misfit to whoever you marry. It doesn’t mean other parts of your life would be at a standstill because you’re serving Him. As you serve Him, develop other aspects of your life.
You may ask, how do I serve God?
That’s very simple.
First of all, are you a Christian by following Jesus or you’re a Christian because you go to church? One is a disciple while the other is a churchgoer.
If you’re not a disciple, these biblical truths won’t make sense to you but you’d scorn it. You should be a Christian by giving your life to Jesus, then become His follower. The fact that you go to church doesn’t make you a Christian if Jesus Christ hasn’t become both your Lord and Savior.
Do away with those things that prevent you from living your life for Him so you can accept Him wholly.
After this, discover your divine purpose.
This is the hardest part for many Christians. Your divine purpose is to be discovered, it’s not what you desire. Your passion is a function of your desire, but your divine purpose is to be prayerfully discovered from God.
If you call unto Him in prayers, He will answer you and show you great things you don’t know, and that’s inclusive of your divine purpose.
See, your talent or passion is an addendum to your divine purpose, they’re not the main thing; more so, they must be used for His glory. For instance, if you’re talented in singing, that’s not your divine purpose but talent and it’s not to glorify the devil, or yourself, but to bring glory to Him; however, the platform on which that is done is in the discovery of your divine purpose.
If you’re serious about living your life for His purpose, you must prayerfully discover it. This kind of prayer isn’t offered once, you must ask intentionally until He reveals it to you.
Pray until He reveals it to you so that you can live your life according to His purpose, however, the only hindrance to knowing why God created you is your ignorance and slothfulness.
If you think everything about life is tied to the pursuit of your career, ambition, or earthly vision, you’re not living for God. Your job can give you satisfaction, or earthly fulfillment, howbeit, true fulfillment in life comes from doing what God created you to do; it’s far more than doing those things you choose to do.
Knowing why He created you is good, but fulfilling it is the crucial thing to do.
Serve God faithfully and diligently, not because you want a spouse, but because you love Him. Serve Him in fasting and prayer. Serve Him through evangelism, intercession, and soul-winning. It is not the duty of an evangelist alone, it is the assignment of every true Christians (disciple) to preach the Gospel.
In your place of worship, serve Him, not to please your pastor or outdo men, but to please Him. See, every service you render before God is a seed, a time would surely come for reward because as long as the earth remains, seedtime and harvest would never cease. Be consistent in serving Him. Don’t be weary because Mr. or Miss Right isn’t forthcoming, just be faithful.
Remember, those who sow in tears would surely reap in joy, and sorrow may last for a night, but joy comes in the morning. As you serve Him, let your ears be close to His heart so you can hear those things He would say to you.
Dear Christian single, I hope you know that we are created to serve God, not mammon or the world. Discover your divine purpose, fulfill it, and marry someone whom God has made a help meet for you.
Marriage is more than having legalized sex, becoming Mr. and Mrs., or giving birth to children, it was created for you and your (future) spouse to serve God and fulfill His purpose on earth. Nonetheless, as you serve, ensure you put your emotions to rest which may incite worry and impatience in you.
Lastly, I would leave you with the words of Job, please contemplate and let it spur you to action.
“If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity, and their years in pleasures. But if they obey not, they shall perish by the sword, and they shall die without knowledge” (Job 36:11-12 KJV)