Whether you’re Christian or not, understand that the life of humans is multifaceted. There are several dimensions you can function in life depending on your education, exposure, and pursuit.
There’s a way unbelievers know who to marry, but it’s expected for Christians to follow the pattern that has been laid down by Christ.
Why do you think marriage appears to be a complex institution? Why did the devil attack Adam when he was married and not when he was single? Why did he fight tooth and nail to ensure that Christian singles miss it maritally?
I’d leave that for you to unravel.
Marriage is first spiritual before it’s physical. God conceived the idea first, and He later made the woman for the man, without allowing Adam to make his choice. You may blame the woman for eating the forbidden fruit (that’s not the problem), but that’s not the focus of this post.
Whether you agree or not, your spiritual life forms an integral part of your life. If all things are achieved through the realm of intellectualism, most intelligent people should be successful in life, but that’s not often the case.
It is through your spiritual life that you can know who you should marry and who you should never marry. Going to church doesn’t make you spiritual if you do not consistently give yourself to personal prayers and the ministry of the word.
Life’s spiritual; you need spiritual guidance to know who to marry, and you also need it alongside other things to have a successful marriage.
It’s spiritual laziness to always run to MOGs when you see a rat pursuing you in the dream or you take names to them to help you decide on who to marry. It is in the OT that you need a priest or prophet to direct you, but in this dispensation, Jesus has made you and I a priest, and we can approach our High Priest at will.
The hours many put into browsing social media sites and the likes would have made their spiritual lives vibrant than what they have now. The rate at which many singles charge their phones in a day, and carry on power banks to boost their phone batteries is alarming, but their spiritual life is dead.
Going to church since 1930, plus your knowledge about the Christian faith does not make you spiritual; you’re spiritual when you intentionally give yourself to prayer and the ministry of the word.
How to build your spiritual life
1. Know that God is not dead, and Jesus is alive
It is satanic deception to think God’s dead or that Jesus is not alive. If you don’t leave the realm of theoretical understanding of God to seek an experiential knowledge of Him, you’d be among those who call themselves atheists.
God’s not dead, neither is He a figment of your imagination. He doesn’t need you to prove Himself to be real if you don’t understand and believe all that He has said in His word – the Holy Bible.
It is when you know that God is alive and Jesus isn’t dead that you can take on the next step to become spiritual in life.
2. Desire to know God intimately
The desire to know God intimately is fueled by the Holy Spirit where He gives you a hunger and thirst. More so, those who are dissatisfied with shallow Christianity or tired of referring to history would desire to know Him for themselves.
You can’t navigate the waters of life based on someone else’s understanding of God, know God yourself and intimately.
What does your heart pant after? Your life goes in the direction of your desire. It is what you desire that you pursue, and your desire determines what you seek in life.
3. Seek Him passionately
Without desire, you can’t pursue; when there’s a desire to seek God in you like Moses, David, Paul, and the likes, you’d pay the price to seek Him passionately and personally.
I can’t seek God for you, neither can you seek Him for me; it is when you and I seek Him passionately that we can give witness to the world that He’s real and not dead.
More specifically, you can’t seek Him without the Holy Spirit else you’d dabble into the error of falling into the realm of other spirits who claim to be Jesus.
4. Fellowship with the Holy Spirit
There are many spirits in the realm of the spirit and many fraternize with them which makes them spiritual. There are familiar spirits, diviners, occult, witchcraft, and demons in charge of the spirit world.
It is the Holy Spirit that would guide your spirit man to interact with God on a supernatural plane. Without Him, you can interact with other spirits, but not God. Other spirits except the Holy Spirit are the counterfeit the devil created as a substitute to the Holy Ghost.
They can also show signs and wonders, this is why you should test all spirits whether they are from God.
To fraternize with Him, you need a quiet and quality time, a secret place and to commune with Him frequently. The Holy Spirit guides you into all truths and teaches you all things if you ask Him.
He’s the spirit of wisdom, knowledge, understanding, counsel, might, and the fear of God that surpasses other spirits in the spirit realm.
If you don’t have koinonia with Him as a Christian brother or sister, you’re no different from unbelievers (natural) and carnal people. More so, your marital experience won’t differ from that of unbelievers if you don’t relate with Him.
How serious are you with your spiritual life?
It’s not enough to mark attendance in church, you should be intentional about your spiritual growth.
It is important to be financially independent, mentally sound, emotionally stable, and physically fit, but do you know that your spiritual life plays an indispensable role in those?
Quit religiosity that makes you think you’re spiritual by attending all church programs without catering for your spiritual being. Remember, you’re a spirit, and if your spirit man is malnourished, you’d be vulnerable to the attacks and ploy of the devil.
If you can spend hours on social media but you sleep off during your quiet time, something is wrong with your spirit man. The health of your spiritual life determines the effectiveness and stability of your life. If you build other areas, but not your spiritual life, how would you survive the challenges of life when the devil sizes you up?
How can you even overcome satanic deception, confusion, and manipulation if you’re not spiritually sound?
All that has been discussed in the previous series on this topic can only be known when you’re mature spiritually. There are many things God wants to do in you and through you, but if you remain as a natural or carnal being, He becomes limited.
Grow up spiritually; don’t be physically fit and healthy but deficient and skinny spiritually. Spend quality time with God in prayers and meditation on His word. Remember, man shall not live by bread alone, but by the words that proceed from His mouth.
If God would lead and guide you maritally, above everything else, give priority to your spiritual life first. When you pray, you talk to Him, but when you study His words, He speaks to you through the Holy Spirit. If you don’t give yourself to these things, it would be difficult to know who to marry as Christian singles.