If God would guide or reveal to you who you’d marry, there are several things you should do. You need spiritual intelligence, serve God, be focused on the activities that produce results, and wait on God; all these have been extensively discussed in the previous series.
One more thing you need that would help you know the right person to marry is this: Don’t worry.
Worry is a woman who gives birth to the fear of the unknown, anxiety, and unbelief. It is not the day you begin your walk with God that He’d guide you to who you’d marry.
The purpose of worry is to magnify your troubles above God’s word and truth. It is a force that would prevent you from receiving those things that God has provided for you, and it also hinders you from living the kind of life He wants you to live – peace.
According to Philippians chapter four verse six, scripture asserts that “Be careful of nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7 KJV)
Trust me, it’s normal for you to be worried about who you’d marry, but it’s abnormal when you allow the thoughts of worry to influence what you do.
When you find yourself worrying about your age, who the right person is, and when they would come, master the art of bringing your thoughts into captivity to the obedience of Christ.
Life is spiritual and the weapons of our warfare are not carnal. When the thought of worry seeps into your mind, discard it prayerfully by using the word of God as it is written in the scripture.
Don’t worry; be happy, even when things seem not to happen physically. When you worry, you’d give the devil a place, but when you worship God instead of worrying, you’d be positioned for victory.
The mystery of having faith in God is that while we do not look at visible things because visible things are transient, we look at the unseen things that are eternal.
However, worry would easily set in when you walk by sight, but assurance is built when you walk with God by faith.
Don’t worry about who, when, where, and how you’d know or meet the right person, be happy that God whom you trust will never disappoint and would bring His word to pass in your life.
Trust me, it would be discouraging when you don’t have anyone around to encourage you, but like David, encourage yourself in the Lord.
If you entertain the thoughts of worry, it would bring you to a state of unbelief, making God literally “handicap” in guiding you to the person He has prepared for you.
However, three sure ways to overcome worry while you wait on God for guidance are these.
1. Quiet self
Self is that voice that stems from the nature you inherited from Adam. Every human being has self living within and it’s to the degree you put it to death through the Cross that it becomes dysfunctional in you.
Through the death of the Cross, you put self to death, but with the word of God, you’d cast down the thought of worry. When self has been quietened, then you can be at rest to have God’s guidance.
2. Be full of faith
To believe is different from faith. You can believe in yourself, in someone, in the future and you can believe in God. To believe in God is to have faith in Him.
Faith is the substance of the things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. You can’t be full of faith if God’s word is not dwelling in you. It is the amount of access you have to God’s word, both written and spoken words, that would determine your measure of faith.
Faith overcomes worry when you have it resident in you.
3. Be anxious for nothing
Don’t be worried about anything. If you’re anxious that your mates are getting married or time isn’t on your side, you’d be overwhelmed by worry.
Be anxious for nothing, but when anxiety comes, by prayer and supplication, tell God about it rather than bear the burden yourself.
Pray about everything and worry for nothing. The truth about worry is that when you entertain it, it weighs you down the most. Rather than spend time nursing the thoughts of worry which would yield no result, use that same energy to pray and you’d watch the burden being lifted off your mind.
Mind you, you can only do that when you have a spiritual understanding that would enable you to convert your worries to prayer.
Worry saps your energy, and it prevents God from doing that which only Him can do in your life. Waiting on God for guidance on who to marry would take longer than usual when you add worry to your walk with Him.
Don’t worry, be happy, no matter what may come your way in the process of trusting God for a partner, you’d surely testify if you do not give up on God.