It is one thing to know the right person to marry, and it’s another thing to know the wrong person you must not marry.
Beyond the bliss and excitement that comes with being engaged in a relationship that’s leading to marriage, it’s worthy to note that you need to be sure beyond doubts that you’re with the right person.
When it comes to being assured of one’s marital choice, some would infer they know they’re with the right person because they’re compatible physically, mentally, financially, academically, or based on their parameters without considering the essentials.
While those things are not wrong, but as Christians, the assurance that you’re with the right person must first be determined based on your relationship with God, and this lies on your divine revelation and or spiritual discernment which must enhance your mutual conviction and confirmation.
However, conviction is not obtained as Christians without doing the needful such as prayer, patience, and careful observation of the person in question. You can’t claim to fall in love at first sight and you’re convinced that you’re with the right person.
Conviction is first the confidence you have that you’re with the right person, however, confirmation is someone else’s validation of your conviction.
It’s wrong to depend on someone else’s conviction without having yours. You know why? Nobody can eat for you and you’d be satisfied, you must eat by yourself if you need the required strength to survive in life.
Never depend on someone else’s conviction to ascertain who to marry. If you do, it would be impossible to weather the challenges of marriage with their assurance because they won’t be there to help you. However, if your conviction comes from God, He would always be there to stand by you when you have made Him your Alpha and the Omega.
If you have thoroughly obtained your conviction from God, having had a track record of a consistent prayer life and divine leading, it would be easy to secure someone else’s confirmation because in the mouth of two or three witnesses every truth shall be established.
Meanwhile, if you haven’t done your assignment absolutely, confusion would set in. Confusion is the absence of clarity over one’s decision about a matter which is caused by fears or doubts.
When something within keeps asking you, “Are you sure he (she) is the right person?” It is better to honestly answer the question otherwise, you would find the answer in marriage when the realities of life set in, however, such an answer would come with consequence.
It’s confusing to be in “love” with more than one person at the same time while you don’t know who to choose. It’s confusing to take more than one name to people to help you pray with.
Get your convictions clear from God in the place of prayers and you can get people to pray with you on it for confirmation. The only way to get tod of confusion in your quest of knowing who to marry is to prayerfully ask for the spirit of revelation.
When His light comes, the darkness of ignorance that could lead to confusion or uncertainty would be cleared off. However, this can be possible when the fire of prayer is burning consistently on your altar, otherwise, you’d be confused about knowing the right person.
Adam wasn’t confused to ascertain who his bone and flesh is, with accurate discernment, he was able to know the role the woman is to play in his life.
Dear Christian singles, get serious with God now that the pressure isn’t on you to bring home a partner, because if you wait till when you’re ready to be serious about your spiritual growth and maturity, you could fall victim to deception, manipulation, and confusion.
However, also bear in mind that God is not an author of confusion but of peace. If you’re confused about knowing who to marry, or what to do to bring you the right partner, something must have to authorize or activate confusion in your life. Deal with it.
Remember, God only leads and guides those who put their trust in Him.