It’s saddens my heart to see ladies; the learned, illiterate, Christian, non-Christian, exposed or conservative to lament over what is become of their fate in their relationship.
I often wish I could reverse the hand of time so that such incidence wouldn’t have happened to them. But it’s usually too late, meanwhile, it may not be too late for someone reading this.
Ninety percent of those who are victims in their relationship are mostly women. This statement is valid.
Take a personal study around you and you’ll also discover this truth.
They are the ones who are often abused, used, cheated, hurt, suffers emotional wounds and the likes.
See, men have few things to suffer but the bulk of it lies on the women folks. No one says having sex is bad but having it when you’re not prepared for what might likely come out of it makes it bad.
At times I feel like giving them a resetting hard knock on the head, but my church mind won’t permit, but I’m only left to pity such naive women. Pardon my grievances!
Many ladies might still be a victim this week, month, year and in the nearest future. But to those who wouldn’t want to be…
Zip up your heart and skirt. You know why?
1. You bear the pain for being made pregnant
A friend of mine wrote recently that “I’m pregnant ought to be a thing of joy for a man who’s ready and proud to be a father and not the one that will yell on you or call it a thing”.
But when you unzip your skirt and allow him make you pregnant. He’ll put the whole blame on you that you’re not smart or that you lured him.
2. You will have to go through an abortion whether through the use of pill or the removal of the fetus
“Oh baby, you cannot keep this thing. You’ll have to remove it”, he whispered into her ears while she’s in a state of confusion.
Before you see this movie becoming real to your face, it’s advisable that you run for your dear life. Don’t prove your love to him through sex or show him that you love him by giving him sex when he demands for such.
3. You bear the pain alone
It often does not reflect in a man’s body that he’s no longer a virgin. But as a lady, there’s a sag in your breast, your hymen is broken, you lose your virginity in the arms of a man that only wants to use you for pleasure, you’ll suffer the guilt, and condemnation and so on.
Count the consequence rather than the five minutes pleasure! It’s never worth it, I tell you.
4. You suffer the shame for becoming sexually loose
The society we live in hardly blame men for being promiscuous but every hand points an accusing finger on women for being sexually lose.
Not only that, he’ll tell his friends of how he was able to get you in bed, what he did and what it costs him. He’ll even sell you over to his friends so they can auction you for the price they already knew it cost him to “buy” you.
Think with your head and don’t be carried away with his false care.
5. You’ll be made a mother when you’re not prepared for it
Who even knows if your parents wouldn’t allow you abort the baby? Or that a prophecy might come to you that you shouldn’t abort the baby? Or that the doctor might even suggest that you do not abort it because it’ll cost you your life?
And when this happens, who suffers it the most?
He’ll even pick up himself and start a chase on another lady when he knows that you’re pregnant.
Be wise and don’t be naive.
How I wish I can pen down more reasons why you should zip up as a lady rather than face the consequences for your ignorance.
It’s better not to experience the consequence of an action than to become a victim or its survivor.
The Yorubas would say, “Oju apa o le joju ara”, meaning that the scarred skin cannot be the same as the normal skin.
Zip up your skirt and heart. But unzip it for the right man who has every right to your soul and body having done the right thing to secure your hand in marriage, and you are fully persuaded that God is involved – not before or outside marriage, but in it.
Zip up! And don’t be a victim.’