Not all women are great, but there are few great women in life.
Why is this so?
I’ve realized that life will not make you outstanding, rather, you’d choose what and who you want to become in it. It’s your choice to be an indispensable or an exceptional woman, it’s also your choice to be a sex object or a baby mama.
However, remember that every choice comes with a consequence. Why were some women great and others never amount to anything in life? Why were some women, against all odds, rose to prominence despite the challenges of life and marriage, while others have their greatness buried in marriage or marred in their immoral relationship?
I found out some things about such great women and I’ll put them before you.
1. Discover yourself
It pains me when lots of young ladies don’t know who they are and they felt they need a man in their lives by all means to validate their worth.
Who has beguiled you?
When you don’t know who you are, you can’t stand out to be exceptional and indispensable in life. Great women aren’t born great, what made them great was because they discovered the greatness they carry.
It is ignorance of your true self to think your selling point is your breast, beauty, and buttocks. When you fail to discover yourself, some men would use you to fulfill what you weren’t ordained for.
How can a man consider it a favor to marry you? How can he make you a baby mama when all you think there is to live for is sex and to make babies?
Wake up! You’re more than what you think you are only if you discover your true self. You’re not what your situation or family background has made you, you’re what God has ordained you to be only if you discover it.
2. Know your identity in Christ
It is one thing to discover your true self, it’s another thing to know who you are in Christ.
In Christ, a woman is not a weaker vessel, that’s the opinion of someone. In Christ, your voice can be heard and you’d never usurp authority.
A lady who knows her identity in Christ is powerful and she has latent value. She’s worth more than rubies and gold, she’s priceless! Do you know why?
In Christ, she’s who God says she is; she’s what He says she’s and she knows herself and her role in Him. When a godly man sees a lady who knows her identity in Christ, he sees more than a baby-making machine or a sex object, he sees a helpmeet to his destiny.
When you know your identity in Christ, you’d discover that you’re not just a woman with a womb, but you’re a woman whose womb is to carry more than a baby, but to birth realities and possibilities in the Kingdom.
The likes of Kathryn Khulman, Maria Woodworth Etter, and the likes were these kinds of women who knew who they were in Christ, not because they were called into the ministry. They shook their world and made an impact for God.
My dear, do you know who you are in Christ, or do you only see yourself as a Mrs. to be or a lady who needs a man because she feels like she’s incomplete without him?
3. Be married to the right man
Do you know that a 32 karat gold ring wrapped around a pig can’t be treasured? It would be cast in the mud and trashed in the miry clay. This is exactly what would happen to you if you marry the wrong man. This is why the Holy Bible warns that you should not cast your pearls before swine lest they rend you.
Young ladies please lend me your ears, do all you can to marry the right man and be the right woman.
Nobody would hear of Joyce Meyer, and our own Ngozi Okonjo Iweala if they were married to the wrong men. In an interview I watched, Bukola Bekes mentioned that the man she was in a relationship with before she met her husband told her that after the wedding, she won’t be going out for ministration again.
Do you see that?
It is not pride, if you don’t know who you are and what you carry, you’d marry the wrong man just because you want to be married by all means. No woman can be great when she’s married to a jealous man who sees her greatness as a threat to his ego.
Do your assignment properly in the place of prayer and trust in God for guidance and direction. Many of you carry something great on your inside, but if you marry the wrong man, you’d abort that greatness.
4. Be a positive influence
All that some young ladies know how to do well is to become a stumbling block for men through their immoral and immodest dressing.
How can you be the reason why a married man would leave his wife and nurse an affair with you? Why would you be the one to suggest sexual immorality to men because you want to have a taste of the forbidden fruit?
You can’t be a source of positive influence if who is on your inside is living for pleasure. Because many ladies want to trend, they resort to slay queen pursuit, model themselves like celebrities, and lay negative precedence for those young ones that are looking up to them.
Be a positive influence. If you can’t beat them, stand out. If you don’t want to be like them, don’t join them. Indispensable and exceptional women are role models and sources of positive influence in their sphere of influence.
5. Develop yourself
Truth be told, no man wants to marry a liability, and I don’t think I would like to marry one either.
Now that you’re single, what are you doing to amplify your worth, or to improve yourself? Ladies who don’t develop themselves mentally, financially, spiritually, and emotionally end up becoming a liability in marriage.
Why would you wait to be married before you make progress in life? Why will you even think that using what your mama gave you is all you’ve got to improve yourself when you have a brain, two hands, and legs?
Don’t dream of marrying a rich man, be a wealthy woman a real man would be proud of marrying. Read good books, not gossip blogs. Get a skill, monetize it. Ideate. Be creative. If you’re a career person, rise to the top through competence and not through the other way.
Work on yourself to be an asset, not a liability to any man who marries you.
6. Have a good character, not just a startling appearance
It’s good to look good and spot-on, but of what good is beauty without an enviable character and the fear of God? Some ladies can spend quality time adding those brushes, foams, and facial lines on their faces to look good, but they neglect their character.
Beauty would attract men to you, but your character would either retain or dismiss them. Do you know that as much as men love beautiful women, no man in his right frame of mind would trade character for beauty?
Do you have respect? Do you know how to talk? Are you rude, brash, or polite? Can you comport yourself in any given situation or do you give it to everyone who stepped on your toes? Are you humble or arrogant? Do you know how to relate with people or you don’t care whose ox is gored?
People may forget how you look, but they would never forget how you treat them or make them feel. Remember, Queen Vashti’s character replaced her, but favor and character made Esther exceptional and irreplaceable.