Dozens of articles on how a woman can find the right man or attract the man of her dreams had littered the cyberspace.
Many have been written by those who do not understand the principles of marriage or those who employ worldly philosophy to present their ideas to sound logical, but it’s anti-scriptural.
Do you know that a woman has no business finding who to marry? I do not care about what any MOG may have told you. It doesn’t even matter if the case of Ruth was used to justify their teaching. What matters is: does it tally with scriptural truths?
In Genesis, God brought the woman to the man. In Rebecca’s case, she was at the right place at the right time and she did the right thing that made her stand out.
Now, here’s the shocking truth: A LADY HAS NO BUSINESS FINDING WHO TO MARRY, SHE’S TO ALLOW GOD POSITION HER TO BE FOUND based on her obedience to Him and her diligence.
If you seem confused, please read it again, and now slowly. If you don’t still understand, then read patiently.
Aside from the fact that the woman was brought to Adam, Rebecca positioned herself to be found because she was diligent. She didn’t go to the well to find a husband, her coming to the fore was an answer to someone’s prayer – Eleazer.
In the case of Ruth that has been erroneously used, Ruth did not do what she did based on her volition, she acted based on Naomi’s instruction, and Naomi can be said to be a type of the Holy Spirit – a guide. More so, she was industrious.
For Ruth to have met Boaz was a compensation for her loyalty to her mother-in-law. How loyal are you to God’s work? And with what motive do you serve God?
Do not think you can find a husband by dressing the way someone wants you to dress. Never think giving a man sex or acting like a wife would make him consider you for marriage. If he does, it’s a bad way to enter into marriage.
Serve God. He rewards your labor of love. A good husband is a salary that is paid by God.
If God would check your account balance in heaven, what can He see to pay you with?
God is so mysterious in His ways that you can’t find or predict Him. He can use situations or orchestrate events to position you where you’d meet your husband.
I read about a woman who had issues with her NYSC posting. She couldn’t go for service with her mate, and all effort to rectify it in Lagos proved abortive. Then, she took the pain to travel to Abuja to solve the problem. It is in the church where she worshipped that weekend that God connected her to her husband and the rest became history.
If you think that’s not true, I’ll share a more personal experience.
I know of a lady who is a little above thirty. She couldn’t get a job in her place of residence after several failed attempts. She traveled to another state in Nigeria. On arrival, she got a job but had an accommodation issue. She was squatting with her uncle and worshipped in a nearby church. All her efforts to get an accommodation nearby failed. Until she made another attempt to get an apartment closed to her workplace.
Few months after she successfully did, she met her husband in a nearby church where she worshipped. She didn’t go there with the aim of finding brother John, and the good news is that they are planning to have their marriage soonest.
If you do not believe that, then you’re a doubting Thomas. 😁
Serve God with a right motive. Be diligent in His work. Have a personal relationship with Him. Quit dating James and John Zebedee with the aim of looking for Bro. Paul as Mr. Right.
Let God use good circumstances to connect you with the man He has prepared for you, however, you must be obedient and ready to do His will.
Any relationship tips or counsel that is aimed at helping you to find a husband without God would put your life in a mess. Although, it may work, but it would never give you His best because you’d do lots of patching to make it work.
God won’t give you a husband that would become your prayer point. You know why?
Every good and perfect gift is from the Lord whom there’s no shadow of variableness. My dear, stay with God. Enough of your stress, frustration, trial, and error on this matter. Let God help you.
I know He may not be fast as you would want, but He is always right on time. You also need to understand that time and chance happens to each and every one of us.
The time lady A would marry won’t be the same time lady B will marry, even if their age mates, coursemates, friends, or from the same parents. But when your time comes and with the right person, you won’t have to pull your pants down to prove a point.
It is when the time is not right, and the person is not right that you’d have to use sex to prove what is not.
Now that it all seems to be like all men want sex, there are still some who would never demand that you have sex with them, or quit the relationship you if don’t comply. They exist, but they are rare.
Would you allow God to guide you to the right man He has chosen for you, or you still want to try your luck with Peter and Paul?
The ball is in your court.
