Because there are plenty of fakes does not mean there are no originals, it only depends on how to identify the original and where to find it.
Does true love exist? Oh yeah, it does, but you need to understand what it is. If what you call true love is genuine in the real sense of being unconditional, selfless, and sacrificial, you can surely find it in this cosmos.
But there again, you need to understand what it is so you can know what you’re looking for, and where to find it. If your understanding of sincere love is all about receiving without returning the same expression, that’s selfish.
If what you call true love is the romantic display of affection, you’re wrong. You know why? If a pretender comes to you with such an affectionate display, you’d fall for it.
How do I find true love?
I’d assume you have understood what true love is, but if you haven’t, please check here to read more about it.
To find true love, you need God. Are you surprised I mentioned Him? Well, if you ever doubt His help, certainly, you’d not find it.
Do you think a sailor would easily find his bearing on the sea without a map and compass? If he ever attempts to do that, he’d be lost in the voyage. More so, you can never find a missing treasure chest if you’re not guided, just as a tourist won’t understand the tour without a tourist guide.
True love in this clime is a treasure, and finding it requires that you’re guided else, you’d fall into the hands of deceivers who pretend to express love but they’re fake.
Do you think you’d find true love without God? That’s impossicant! And here’s why you need Him.
1. It’s easy to profess love, but expressing it is a matter of the heart
Do you have what it takes to know the heart of the person who professes love to you? There are many pretenders and deceivers out there who would claim to love you, but deep in their heart of hearts, they have no iota of love for you.
If you ever take them at face value or you anchor your life based on what they say, you’re in for trouble. I’m sure you know that anyone can say, “I love you” but expressing it in deed and truth is where the matter lies.
A man or woman can get hooked up with you, having the potential of the right spouse but their heart is not right with you. How would you know this? God can only help you know what’s in their heart if you trust Him enough to help you.
Don’t be swift to accept a person’s profession of love when you’re not sure of the genuineness of their statement. Even if you’re sure, confirm it.
2. Only those who know God can express love truly
Who are those who know God? Catholics? Pentecostals? Orthodox Christians? Well, knowing God is not a function of the denomination you belong to, but a reflection of your relationship with Him.
You can’t know Him experientially and your love life will be filled with wickedness, pretense, deceit, selfishness, anger, pride, and those terrible things people believe and do in relationships.
The nature of God which is love would rub off on you when you know Him intimately. Many claim to know Him religiously, theologically, or based on hearsay; but those who understand Him love like Him.
I hope you know that who you walk with will influence your life. You can’t walk genuinely with God and you won’t love like Him. That’s impossible!
Anyone who claims to know God but the fruits of their lives doesn’t reflect His love do not know Him, and if you marry this kind of person, you’re in for it.
3. The best of your understanding is liable to error in your quest for true love without God
Why do people date? Why do they matchmake themselves without Him? It’s because they don’t want to consider Him in their search for love. Although many of these relationships would be rosy at the start, in the end, it’ll be gloomy.
Do not lean on your understanding if you’re looking for true love, let God guide you. You can’t confirm the authenticity of a person’s love to be true if you don’t allow God to direct you.
God guides, He reveals: especially to those who involve Him in their relationships without being clouded by feelings or ignorance.
4. A relationship is a journey
Remember, I said that a relationship has a good and rosy start doesn’t mean the end will be great. When a man comes to you for a relationship, or before you propose to a lady, involve God.
God won’t be the Omega in the relationship you’ve not made Him the Alpha. Although He will show up whenever you call upon Him, the earlier the better. How would you find true love when you do not involve Him in your search for a partner?
Many thought they had found true love at the beginning of their relationship, and this made them throw caution into the air, it was later they discovered that their relationship was a sham.
See, the journey of a relationship starts from the search for or meeting a partner, investing in each other, and progressing into courtship then marriage. If you ignore Him at any stage, it’s dangerous.
There’s no love in marriage, love is only found in the person you marry.
5. You need God to find and sustain true love
Just like a tourist going on a tour, if your guide doesn’t help you, it would be impossible for you to find your way or be guided.
It’s one thing to find true love, it’s another thing to sustain it. You can’t find true love if God does not guide you, and it can’t be sustained without Him. It is only when you love God first that you’d be able to find and sustain it.
Most singles thought it is through dating, adopting worldly philosophy, leaning on their understanding, in church or on social media they’d find the one that would love them truly; but that’s often not the truth.
It is only where and to whom He leads you to that you’d find true love, especially those who could love genuinely. Do you want to enjoy the love that’s unconditional, selfless, and sacrificial? Never exclude God in your quest for true love.
