Trust me, no one prays to be married to an enemy; and the joy of every couple is to marry their friend and remain friends forever. Who doesn’t like that?
Sadly, many have been deceived to marry their friend who later became their enemy, instead of marrying a friend. It’s one thing to marry a friend, and it’s another thing to marry your friend. Your friend may not be suitable for you in marriage, no matter how compatible you think you are.
However, understand this, marriage is beautiful when it’s built on friendship, supported by a partnership, and it’s a union of lovers who will do all it takes to make it successful. Those who are ignorant of these dimensions usually chicken out or leave the kitchen when the heat is much.
Do you know that one of the things that makes marriage sweet is to be married to a friend, or you make your spouse your friend? The moment you do not see your spouse as your friend, there’s a big problem.
Marriage won’t make you friends if you’re not determined to be one. The forces that want to separate or put you in asunder is greater than the forces that want you to be one. Marriage was designed for oneness, and to build an alliance, friendship is sin qua non.
The following tips should guide you on how to marry a friend.
1. Be a friend
To marry a friend, be a friend.
It’s that simple.
Friendship is deeper than having a boyfriend or girlfriend. A friend is someone who can tell you the truth without mincing words. They care more about your life, future, and destiny than what they can benefit from you.
You are not a friend if you can hold a grudge for days, keep malice for weeks, and you’d be okay with that. A friend would always be loyal and faithful; be one.
If you lack the qualities of a friend such as being hospitable, kind, accommodating, amongst other things, you’d be a foe to whoever you’re married to, even if you marry an angel.
However, don’t just be a friend, be a good friend.
2. A friend loves at all time
Do you remember that popular oath that’s usually taken on the wedding day?
Whether you like it or not, good and bad times exist in marriage. If you’re not prepared to be a friend who loves at all times, you’d give up on your partner during those bad times.
In case you don’t know, there are times your spouse would offend you, if you fail to make allowance for such by loving them all the time, there would be issues in marriage.
A friend who would love all the time must be ready to forgive in advance, embrace perpetual tolerance, and make patience the air he or she breathes. If you don’t have this capacity now that you’re single, it’s better you build it.
3. Be friendly
What does that mean?
It’s simple; be fun-to-be-with, peaceful, loving, nice, generous, sympathetic, receptive, and loyal. They’re more than those, but these are indispensable in marriage.
If you’re the opposite of those, your marriage will be boring, stormy, full of struggle (to please him or her) and misunderstanding. Lest I forget, you need understanding to be friendly, otherwise, you’d do the right thing at the wrong time.
How friendly are you?
See, it doesn’t cost a dime to be friendly. Learn the rudiments; be yourself, and marry someone who’s friendly. But before you do that, involve God.
4. Involve God
If you think you can marry the right person all by yourself, I’d be bold to tell you that you’re a clown.
Dating Paul or Paulina won’t help either if you do not involve God before it’s too late. You don’t need any form of dating to marry the right person if God’s involved in your marital quest.
All those worldly philosophy people post online telling you how to attract Mr. or Miss Right would burn your fingers if your trust isn’t in God. It’s simple to involve God when you do the right thing, but it’d be difficult to depend on Him when you believe you know it all.
Pay the price to allow God to guide you on who to marry so you can enjoy the prize in marriage; cohabitation doesn’t help either. Those who put everything in God’s hand will always get His best in everything.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and never lean on your understanding. Acknowledge Him before you propose or accept that proposal. God’s not a killjoy. He’d keep you from future regrets when He’s involved, but if you don’t, you’d face the music yourself.
God may not lead you to someone you know, but they’d definitely be His choice if He’s involved. Other times, He can lead you to someone you’ve met years ago; this is why His ways are past finding. Ensure you trust Him (timing, promises, and Person) wholeheartedly, and never try to help God.
Meanwhile, if something else other than God brought you together, these tips might not work. Never forget this in a hurry, marriage is sweet when you’re married to a friend, especially when God is involved, and you do those things that make it sweet.