That was exactly what she said because she could no longer bear the frustration that comes with waiting for the right person and the feeling of loneliness that upsets singles.
Meanwhile, little did she know that it’s not in all cases that a bird at hand is worth more than two in the bush. But something kept whispering to her that the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know.
Have you found yourself in this kind of situation that you’re presently managing your partner while considering him or her for marriage?
Then, you need to read this carefully.
1. Marriage is a journey
It would be frustrating when you embark on a lifelong journey with what seems to be “good” because you can’t wait for the best. Don’t settle for the less when you can patiently and prayerfully pay the price to get the best.
I hope you know that who accompanies you in your marital journey determines your experience in it. Marriage is not what many of you think it is. Sooner or later, when you have pitched your tent with the wrong person, you’d regret the decision you make.
You should do your assignment carefully, patiently, and prayerfully before you undertake this journey of marriage, especially with the wrong person. Don’t allow the emotional gush of excitement or the feeling of negligence all enhanced by ignorance to make you settle for the less.
There’s more to marriage than to settle for the less when the best is near.
2. Who you marry is like a shoe
Have you ever walked in an undersized shoe or an oversized one?
I believe the proverbial saying, “He who wears the shoe knows where it pinches” came from the experience of those who wore an undersized shoe.
A marital partner can either be a mismatch or a suitable spouse if you settle for anyone without getting the best from God. Some shoes you would outgrow and some would never fit you till you discard them, while some fit you as you grow in capacity – size, weight, and height.
Don’t think everyone that comes your way with the attire of a potential spouse would surely be the right person. Just like a shoe, a wrong spouse is a misfit and the right one is best suited.
If you marry the wrong spouse, you alone would bear the trauma and it wouldn’t be long that you’d discover that. The best way to get the right partner is to allow God to guide you because the best of your knowledge can’t lead you to the person He has prepared for you.
The right person God leads you to, provided you allow Him, would grow with you as you advance in life, career and ministry. But if you manage the wrong person, you’d do twice as much to make them the right person, and that’s impossible, except for the divine intervention.
3. Marriage is not to be endured but enjoyed
Why would you sacrifice your happiness in life for frustration and regret when you could have paid the price to get the best?
See, the journey of marriage, like they say, “…till death do us part,” is not a one-month, one-year, or five-year adventure. It’s a lifelong journey that you’d be miserable if you manage the wrong person and your experience would be lamentable.
To enjoy marriage, allow God to guide. You can’t compare the kind of marriage you’d have when God guides you with the one you’d experience when you lead yourself.
This is why those who are wise in their eyes don’t depend on God for guidance as touching their marital lives, but those who are called “fools” according to the wisdom of this world leaves everything to God despite their education, exposure, and experience.
A little bit of patience would prevent you from marrying the wrong person. When you trust God some more, you’d escape a bad marriage even if everything glitters today.
Don’t manage a potential spouse because time isn’t on your side when you can get the best from God.
Don’t allow pressure – both within and without – to push you into the marriage you’d endure when you can patiently allow God to lead you into the one you’d enjoy.
Don’t be talked into a wrong partner when you can talk to God to lead you to the right one.
Never allow impatience to lead you into a wrong marriage because it’s better to be late and marry the right person than to be early and marry the wrong person.
Remember, marriage is to be enjoyed, it’s not a necessary evil or a thing of regret. Do your assignment properly in the place of prayer, patience, and carefulness so you can marry the right person, and not manage the wrong person.