I’d like to focus on unmarried singles who are long overdue for marriage.
I’ve been there. I know what it takes to wait on God for the miracle you want, not because you can’t lean on your understanding, but because you know that your wits cannot get you His best.
Waiting in the room of the Almighty looks like an abstract and absurd reality because the things of the Spirit are foolishness to those who are carnally minded.
Why would you wait on God for a spouse, when you can choose who you want? What’s the point of keeping your virginity (as a lady) or becoming celibate (as a man) when you can do what your flesh craves for and get away with it since God is rich in mercy and forgiveness? Did you think waiting on God isn’t a sham?
Come off it, you may be told; I’ve been there, and have been told the same thing. In the waiting room of the Almighty, you’d look stupid and weird to those who do not regard God in their lives. Remember, it’s one thing to be a Christian, and a true child of God, but on the flip side, it’s entirely a different thing to be a churchgoer.
“Your mates are married with kids, and you’re there waiting on God. Do you think you know what you’re doing?” You might have been told this amidst the shame, self-blame, or discouragement that hems around this situation. But here is what you need to know and do.
In the waiting room of the Almighty, it’s a place where He builds your character and capacity; He breaks, molds, and builds you up to His desired vessel. This He does to you, and to the right person, He’s preparing you for.
In His waiting room, some are whiling away time, some are worried, some are on the verge of settling for less other than His best, some are checking their time without doing the necessary things they should do, some are sleeping, some are playing or like the unwise virgin, do not have extra oil in their lamp; however, only a few are doing what they should do while they wait.
Trust me, waiting is painful, worrisome, and frustrating. If care isn’t taken, you’d be talked out of His waiting room. However, a poorly made vessel isn’t good for the Maker, the owner, and it is unfit for His use.
Why do I have to wait this long?
Like I told you earlier, God places us in His waiting room until He has thoroughly worked in us so that we can be a vessel for the finer. Your time doesn’t count, but His. You don’t need to look at your age, focus on the person you’re becoming.
Those who get God’s best usually wait to have it. Every good and every perfect gift is from God. If you want it good and perfect, ask for the grace to wait to receive it. Scripture asserts that you should follow those who through faith and patience obtained the promise.
David had been anointed king over Israel at the latter part of his teenage years, but he never ascend the throne until he reached his thirties. Is God always in a hurry to make men and give them His best? No!
Take a cue from David in the waiting room of the Almighty. He fought and won several battles, and out of nothing and nobody, he made great men of valor. Have you discovered the battles you need to fight? Are you making an impact for His kingdom?
God does not intend to keep you waiting for so long, but there are powers that be you have to conquer while you wait. Believe me, the forces of marital delay are real, but more real is our victory in Christ.
Rise up from the bed of discouragement and emotional burnout. If you give up on God, you lose, and your enemies would rejoice over you. Stay focused on God, and not on the miracle you want. Go into the place of prayer, win the battle that’s contending for your marital breakthrough.
You don’t have to fight to win, fight from the standpoint of victory that Jesus has provided for you. If you’ve prayed and nothing happened, restrategize, and reorder your prayers.
Pray again; this time, pray with understanding. Be intentional. Produce your cause, bring forth your strong reasons.
Fight your battles in the place of prayer. Pray until something happens, and never give up in the days of adversity. If you do, your strength is small. Ask prayerfully, because those who ask receive.
Your waiting will soon be over, don’t give up on God, because He’s able. Never forget that what you do while you’re waiting to be married determines the outcome of your single life and your waiting experience. Remember, behind every glory, there’s an unpalatable story you might not love to hear. And while you’re waiting, build capacity, and become the best version of yourself and a blessing to your future spouse.
“If a man die, shall he live again? all the days of my appointed time will I wait, till my change come” (Job 14:14 KJV)
“That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises” (Hebrews 6:12 KJV)
“Is any thing too hard for the Lord? At the time appointed I will return unto thee, according to the time of life, and (you shall testify) Sarah shall have a son” (Genesis 18:14 KJV, emp. mine)