The cliché, “There is time for everything,” has now become a statement that most people have gotten so used to, so much that it has lost its relevance.
Without thinking about if the time is right or wrong, people now engage in illicit sex because they don’t care and do not owe anyone an explanation for doing it when they feel like it—even when it was wrong.
For several reasons that are best known to them, many singles indulge in premarital sex without thinking about its consequences. But here comes the big question: is the time right for you to have sex?
I know you might be old enough to indulge in it, but if you do that now that the time isn’t right, you’d affect society in one way or the other based on the terrible consequence you’d be exposed to.
A good thing done at the wrong time is wrong. A wrong thing done at the right time is equally wrong. And the wrong thing done at the wrong time is worse.
Trust me, it is good to have sex, but it is wrong to have it when the time isn’t right. You have no business exploring your sexuality when you’re not married. Forget those philosophy or teachings that makes you think you own yourself and you can do whatever you like with your body and life.
The difference between man and animals is that animals can do what they want when they like, but humans are created with an instinct to think before they do whatever they feel or want to do. You’re not an animal who should have sex at free will, but you are created in His image and likeness.
You may scorn this truth, but you can do nothing against it. It is good to have sex, but God created a time when it is best to have it.
Sex is good when you’re ready to accept whatever consequence comes from it. Meanwhile, why engage in premarital sex with the use of contraceptives because you’re not ready to face its music?
Contraceptives may prevent the physical consequences of illicit sex, but they can never halt the unforeseen aftermath that comes from it. If King David had used a condom with Uriah’s wife, did you think it would stop all those terrible things that later came upon him?
One thing about illicit sex is that you’d only fantasize about the pleasure that you’d derive from it, but you can never estimate or predict the likely consequence.
Let nobody deceive you into thinking you can get away with sex at the wrong time when you use contraceptives. There are many things contraceptives cannot protect. You should accept this as the truth rather than find out the truth from experience.
Unfortunately, there are two kinds of people when it comes to the truth. Those who learn the truth from their personal bitter experience, and those who learn the truth by accepting the truth they were told without learning it a hard way.
It is good to have sex because God designed it for the human body. However, there’s a time He permitted them to have it. Why would you have sex when you’re not ready to be a father or mother? Why have it when you’re not married to your partner? And why have it just for the sake of pleasure at the wrong time?
Sex is pleasurable for the body, but it is only right to have it when you’re committed to one person in a marriage relationship, not before or outside of it.
In case you don’t know, sex before and outside marriage does more harm than good.
What would have happened to Joseph if he hadn’t fled from his master’s wife’s sexual offer? For fleeing, he lost his garments, but his destiny was intact. In the end, he married the daughter of a priest when his dream came true.
Many have lost their virtues because of their exposure to sex at the wrong time. Many have fragmented their lives and destinies with multiple sexual partners while they think, “Nothing will happen.”
Think about it for a moment. Joseph would have remained a glorified slave and, in the end, have had his dream truncated if he had accepted his master’s wife’s sexual offer. It is hard to fulfill your divine destiny when you have fragmented your virtues with multiple sex partners.
If anyone pesters you for sex, ask yourself this question: Is this the right time to have it? Only you can decide whether you’d use your body as an instrument of unrighteousness to sin or as a temple where God would dwell.
And to those who think they can have premarital sex because they are now adults, David wouldn’t have had a negative experience had he not committed adultery with Bathsheba.
The time to have sex is not when you’re physically, mentally, or emotionally ready for it; it has to be in marriage.
That others are doing it and it feels like nothing is happening doesn’t mean God has lowered His standard. That everyone seems to be doing it doesn’t mean there are no people who embrace sexual purity and have never bowed to the god of immorality.
When the time is right, no one would force you to unwrap the gift of sexual intimacy that’s inherent in you. Of course, it would be a godly and honorable thing to do because you’ve been licensed to practice what you know about it.
When the time is right, you have no consequences whatsoever to face, because when sex is done at the right time, there is nothing to fear or worry about.
Never forget, sex can only be sweet and right when you’re with the right person, and you’re doing it at the right place and at the right time.