The proof that you know the right person to marry is by doing the right thing that would lead you to the right person.
Knowing the right person to marry is a crucial matter that many have made regrettable mistakes while trying to figure out. Many thought they knew the right person to marry, but the outcome of their marital choice has led them to divorce, heartbreak, or becoming single parents because they made poor choices among others.
Do you know that being married to the right person is primarily a function of knowledge?
When you know who is right for you, you’d take your time to find him or her and use the right means. You can’t go the wrong way and land at the right destination.
Whether you’re a Christian or not, understand that there are two ways of knowing who you should marry, but there’s just one right way.
You can know who to marry when you adopt the wisdom of this world or the wisdom that comes from above (divine). With the world’s wisdom, many opt in for the likes of cohabitating, dating, marrying one’s friend, having boyfriends or girlfriends, and other worldly options people choose from.
Do you know that adopting the wisdom of this world can’t help you know the right person to marry? No matter how logical or commonsensical it may appear, worldly wisdom can’t get you God’s best.
Why do we have the likes of divorce, domestic violence, abuse, spousal killings, and heartbreak, among other issues that destroy marriages?
However, the reason isn’t farfetched. The kind of wisdom you employ in choosing whom to marry will determine the outcome of your marital life.
If you embrace the wisdom of this world, it would be difficult for you to know the right person, and the best you’d know is to find someone who suits your preference or taste. Moreover, many have erroneously concluded that the decision to find someone to marry remains theirs to make without involving God.
Come to think of it, how can you navigate the sea without a sailor who understands the map to lead you to the right destination in your voyage? How can you find the right person when you don’t know who is right for you? How can you know the right person by using the wrong means?
God told Adam, “I will make a help meet for you.” And when He brought the woman to him, hear what he said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” (Genesis 2:23).
Quit trying to know who the right person is by using worldly gimmicks and philosophies. If you like, date each other for donkey years or cohabit for months, but you can’t know the right person that way.
Only with God’s help and your adherence to His principles would you know the right person. However, the conviction that comes from knowing the right person can only be found through the right knowledge.
Meanwhile, there are 3 kinds of knowledge to choose from if you want to know the right person to marry.
1. Superficial
The first level of information you’ll have about a person is surface knowledge. You can choose who to marry if you limit your knowledge to your physical sense – sight, smell, hearing, or touch.
Many have concluded on who to marry because of what they saw about the person such as their physical appearance, financial status, material possession, social worth, personality impression, social status, or spiritual charisma of the person they want to marry.
If it’s how they made you feel or what they did for you that made you conclude that you’ve found the right person, you’re wrong. Know no man according to the flesh, or else you’d make the wrong conclusion about them.
Samuel almost anointed the wrong person because he mistook physical appearance for the rightness of heart. God sees the heart, but man looks at the appearance.
Meanwhile, press in for a deeper level of information to know the right person to marry rather than adopt surface knowledge.
2. In-depth
That a person told you about their past and present lives does not mean you’ve known them enough to marry them. You can know everything they want you to know about them, but this knowledge is inadequate to conclude that you’ve found the right person.
Many make this mistake by thinking since they’ve been together for a long time and they’ve known each other well, they’re fit to be married.
Can I tell you something?
Knowing the right person to marry has nothing to do with what you know about them. You can know everything about their financial, emotional, spiritual, psychological, business, or career fears, upbringing, present, and future plans. All of these things do not guarantee that they qualify as the right person you should marry.
To know the right person to marry, you need to access a level of knowledge that is deeper than both superficial and in-depth knowledge. I will talk on that in the next series.
Apply the right knowledge so you can marry the right person.
