Let’s Talk About “I Will Marry You”

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Did you know that “I will marry you” has destroyed the life of many ignorant ladies?

Marriage is one thing, promise is another thing. No marriage was ever initiated on the premise of pledging. Most times, actions speak louder than words if a man truly wants to marry you. However, be careful about desperate men also.

It’s unfortunate that when most ladies hear this phrase, they throw caution to the wind because these deceitful but enticing words were uttered to them. Rather than jump at these words, you need to raise your guards.

“I will marry you” is an empty word that has no meaning until it is acted upon. If you take this phrase seriously when in the deepest of his heart it’s an ordinary statement, you are on your own.

Who has deceived you to think a man who says this is serious about it? In case you don’t know, “I will marry you” isn’t a license for him to have sex with you, if you’re ignorant of this, you’ll give him what you’re not supposed to. 

Most ladies give their bodies to men when they hear this empty promise with the hope that they mean it. Mind you, a promise is a debt that most men would never pay. It takes a real and committed man to fulfill his promise when he makes one.

A man who will marry you will do the needful and take the right steps. If his promise of getting married to you is taking longer than usual, my dear, call his attention to it; that’s not desperation but wisdom. A real man doesn’t promise marriage, he makes real plans for it.

Ideally, a man should not utter this phrase to you if he truly wants to marry you. You should both look forward to getting married to each other. Meanwhile, men who say this to you, believe they want to do you a favor by promising you marriage.

Wake up!

A man who will marry you will make the move to do so, but if he’s a player, he will play along to get what he wants from you. Don’t be a tomfoolery.

“Ladies, I will marry you,” as affirmed by Toyin Aremu, “is a promise and not marriage.” Don’t build your life on a promise, build it on reality. That “He said he will marry you” is not an avenue to cohabit or spend the weekends with him.

Don’t be too desperate for marriage, anxious about becoming engaged or so eager to wear an engagement ring that you’d accept a man’s promise to marry you when he only takes the statement with a pinch of salt.

👉Until you’re married, you’re still single.

👉Until you’re pronounced as husband and wife, anything can happen.

👉Until he takes the right step in the right direction towards getting married, you’re still single and searching.

👉Until he goes to see your parents or spiritual leader, you’re not engaged or in courtship.

👉Until he makes concrete plans that are backed up with shreds of evidence, don’t put all your eggs in his basket to avoid stories that touch.

👉Until you’re (very) sure he’s the one for you, don’t make any move to build your life with him.

👉Don’t be so eager to get married to the point where “I will marry you” satisfies your desire.

And that he makes promises, gives you a flower, buys you things, or gives you an engagement ring doesn’t mean he’s ready to marry you if  he doesn’t do the needful. 

And to the brothers, why promise a lady marriage when your heart isn’t with her? That’s deception and its consequences are devastating to you. You can’t break a lady’s heart who truly gave it to you and you’d go scot-free. Aside from the laws of Karma, whatever you sow you’d reap, if not now, it will surely happen in the nearest future.

Nevertheless, I won’t blame those men who promise you heaven and earth just to lure you to bed. Wake up from your bed of fantasy and wise up. 

“I will marry you” isn’t marriage. Remember, until a man leaves his father and mother to cleave to you, don’t cleave or become one with him. 

Muse over it.

Did you have an experience with this issue? How did you handle it? Kindly share in the comment box to help a sister.