Handling Relationship Issues
Cart / £0.00
No Result
View All Result
  • Home
  • Couples
  • Singles
  • Walking With God
  • Purpose Discovery
  • Q&A Session
Handling Relationship Issues
No Result
View All Result

Let’s Talk Series 005: Marriage (2)

by Oluwamayowa Adeniyi
January 28, 2022
in Couples, Q&A Session, Singles
Let's Talk About Marriage (2)

Let's Talk About Marriage (2)

Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
Read Time: 3 mins

The coming together of a man and his wife in an institution that is called marriage is supposed to be a blessing – he that finds a spouse finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord; because God designed it that way. 

Unfortunately, to some, marriage is a blessing, while to some, it’s a bad thing they ever regretted doing in life. Why did some get it right and others failed woefully in it? 

This calls for a sober reflection.

And please, hear this: For as long as the concept and the purpose of marriage are misunderstood, it would forever remain a bastardized institution that many would always fail in it. 

Marital problems are not caused by marriage itself, by the active players in it. The last time I wrote about marriage in this series, I mentioned that marriage isn’t a bad institution, but your marital foundation matters.

The foundation of your marriage has to do with how you met, what brought you together, what binds you together, and the life of the person you’re married to.

Let’s assume a scenario where meeting your partner was divinely orchestrated and there was mutual conviction and confirmation; purpose brought you together, and likewise, what binds you two together is the fear of God, and God is involved. This looks like a perfect arrangement, right?

But do you know that the life of the person you’re married to (or getting married to) can either make or mar your marriage if they do not work on themselves to be the right person?

Hear this, there are no perfect spouses; what you call “perfect” couples or marriage is the combination of two people who regardless of their imperfections found a way to blend and compromise with each other until you see a perfect blend.

If you’re a single reading this, I call you blessed. Do you know why? You can still work on yourself to become the right person. Why many marriages fail or crash is that many prepare so much to get married, but they lack what it takes to stay married.

See, the major problems people have in marriage aside from third-party issue is caused by the people in it. Sex or money shouldn’t tear a marriage apart if you know how to handle it without issues.

Who are you married (getting married) to?

An angel can’t be married to a demon and you’d expect them to have a successful marriage. Two wrong people can’t be married to each other, and they won’t have major issues in marriage.

What kind of person are you becoming? In Genesis chapter two, marriage was a beautiful institution, but in chapter three, a blame party was thrown. The life of the person you want to marry is important. And by life, I do not mean their physical appearance, financial worth, social status, spirituality, material possession, or charisma.

Whether they’re tall, dark, rich, and handsome; or beautiful, endowed, and sexy has nothing to do; what you’re married to is not the container, but their content – mindset, shortcomings, character, habit, and lifestyle.

Before you consider the mote in your partner’s life, consider the beam in your eyes (Matt. 7:3-5). Is your mindset, character, habit, and lifestyle right for marriage and the person you want to marry?

Never think a man or woman would accept you the way you are when you have a bad character or wrong mindset about marriage and the opposite sex. 

One of such mindset is for a lady to believe her money is hers, but her husband is theirs. What a selfish and carnal mindset! An angry man or a man who keeps malice would be a pain in the neck of his wife. 

Can you marry your kind of person?

Work on yourself, you can’t overdo that, and the best time is now for singles, and in marriage, keep working on yourself. The kind of person you marry would determine the kind of experience you’d have in marriage. 

You can’t have a successful marriage, even if you get it right but your character, lifestyle, habit, and mentality are wrong. If the Adamic nature still remains in you and you marry that way, you’ll mess up your marriage. Whether you’re a pastor, celebrity, or ordinary person, your kind of person and your partner determines the outcome of your marriage. 

Don’t accept the way you if it’s what many people or those who are closer to you complain about. Work on yourself to the right person, and ensure you marry the right person. When this happens, you’re 60% guaranteed a successful marriage. 

Oluwamayowa Adeniyi

Oluwamayowa Adeniyi, a Relationship Enthusiast, a blogger, and a speaker. He’s passionate about showing you how to enjoy a hassle-free relationship through a re-orientation of your mindset using Scriptural truths, whether you’re single or married. He is a soon-to-publish author with a dream of writing some bestselling books.

See author's posts

Tags: Christian CouplesLoveMarriageSingles
jasa seojasa seoseo checker

Related Posts

Becoming The Right Partner
Singles

Becoming The Right Person

May 20, 2022

Might you at any point envision the result of having a cat and dog burdened together to furrow a field?...

Signs That I Love You is a Lie
Singles

Signs That I Love You is a Lie

May 16, 2022

Have you ever imagined how often many use this phrase but do not mean it? How many times have you...

Why Many Ladies Are Confused
Singles

Why Many Ladies Are Confused

May 13, 2022

Confused over what? Many things. When it comes to knowing who to marry or choosing who to marry, lots of...

What You Need to Know About Remaining a Virgin Till Marriage
Singles

What You Need to Know About Remaining a Virgin Till Marriage

May 11, 2022

Marriage is honorable in all, but today the institution of marriage has not only been desecrated but bastardized. Nobody cares...

Who You Should Marry: Major Things You Need to Find The Right Person
Q&A Session

Who You Should Marry: Major Things You Need to Find The Right Person

May 9, 2022

If many unmarried singles knew what to do to marry the right person, most of them wouldn't have ended up...

Let's Talk About Love is Blind
Couples

Let’s Talk About Love is Blind

May 6, 2022

Can a blind man lead another man on a journey? Many usually profess that "love is blind" based on their...

Next Post
What Keeps a Man

What Keeps a Man

3 Major Things You Need to Marry Right

3 Major Things You Need to Marry Right

Roles and Responsibilities

Roles and Responsibilities

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

About Me

Handling Relationship Issues

Tim Mayowa

Oluwamayowa Tim Adeniyi is a Relationship Enthusiast. He is passionate about transforming lives – of singles and the married – through the re-orientation of their mindset using God’s word, so they can enjoy a hassle-free relationships.

Handling Relationship Issues

Practical Guide to Solving Relationship Issues.

Read more

    • About
    • Contact
    • Privacy & Policy
    • Advertise

    © 2020 HRI - Designed by Tee Web Services.

    No Result
    View All Result
    • Home
    • Couples
    • Singles
    • Walking With God
    • Purpose Discovery
    • Q&A Session

    © 2020 HRI - Designed by Tee Web Services.