Whether you’ll marry right as single or have a successful marriage as a married couple, depends primarily on you, then your partner.
The devil or your village people has little or no role to play in the kind of marital relationship you experience when you apply the right principles.
Do you know that the difference between the poor and the rich lies in principle?
The rich become richer because of the principles they adopt and the poor becomes poorer than a church rat because of the principles they violate.
You can’t keep applying the principles of hard work, consistency, prayer, adequate preparation, and personal development and you won’t become successful in life. It’s only a matter of time.
One thing singles are burdened with is how to choose the right partner and below are some of the principles they must obey.
You need to be equipped with a thorough understanding of what marriage is and choose the right person who has the same or equal amount of knowledge. Remember, people, end up being destroyed, not because they don’t have money or beauty, but because they lack knowledge.
2. Divine guidance
Singles end up with the wrong person because they’re not properly guided. You can’t choose the right person by limiting your knowledge to books, you need His guidance.
There is some information you won’t know about your potential suitor by reading all the books there is to read about marital relationships. Secrets are revealed in the place of prayer.
3. Compatibility in purpose and destiny
Knowledge is good. Compatibility is important. But more importantly, you need to agree on purpose and destiny. You can’t be destined to be a missionary and marry someone hell-bent on pursuing something different.
There must be compatibility in purpose and destiny, and it’s only through divine guidance, communication, and observation that you can know this.
For married couples to achieve marital success, they must not downplay the following principles.
1. Handling marital conflict or crises
Conflict is inevitable in marriage. Whether you like it or not, deliberate or not, they’ll come. No matter how often they come, how you handle or manage them determines the lifespan of your marriage.
You need both knowledge, understanding, and patience to handle them when they come lest your union be destroyed due to “irreconcilable differences.”
2. Love and submission
This is a golden scriptural principle that many haven’t come to terms with. Husband, love your wife. Simple! Wife, submit to your husband. How? As unto the Lord. If you keep violating this principle, success would be far from your marriage.
3. Effective communication
Beyond talking and listening, effective communication is knowing when, where, and how to talk and passing the right message across. Meanwhile, the goal of effective communication is understanding.
You don’t raise your voice should you communicate effectively. Do you know why? Your emotion is also a language. Your partner wouldn’t listen to what you say, but react to how you’re saying it and that’s a problem in itself.
Life, success, failure, and marriage are built on principles. What principles are you violating as singles and married? Ask God to help you.
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