The Greatest Anatomist designed the human body in such a way that interdependence, complement, and completeness are combined so the body can function effectively. The bone was created to support, likewise, the skin cannot provide cover if it’s not attached to the body, and likewise other organs in the body.
In love relationships or marriage, the parties involved have their roles and responsibilities to play if they want to achieve success or a functional union.
It’s not a woman’s job to make a relationship work when her man seeks to frustrate her effort. And a man alone cannot cater to the needs of his family without the help of his wife.
Whether you’re single, engaged, or married, know for sure no relationship can be successful without the joint effort of the man and woman in it. When a party fails to do their part of the deal, they would frustrate the effort of the other party.
Do you know your roles and responsibilities in that relationship?
Well, if you don’t, let me provide some insights.
A lady was created to be a helper suitable for her man, whether she’s married or not, and if you’re not married, build the capacity to be a helper. Be a support to your man. Be his sure banker when he needs financial help. When he’s down emotionally, jolt him back to life. When he needs spiritual support, be a shoulder he can lean on.
It is ignorance of your role to depend solely on a man to cater to your needs when you have what it takes to make ends meet in a legit and godly way. Be a helpmeet; not a burden or liability.
Know your role in that relationship, and discharge it. A single lady should be independent, but when she’s married, she needs to seek her husband’s opinion on certain issues before she makes decisions.
It’s not a woman’s role to assume leadership responsibility in a relationship. If a man can’t do that, motivate him, and encourage him to take the initiative. Two pilots can’t fly an aircraft, else there would be conflict.
Another role a woman is to fulfill is to act as a “cover.” Protect your man when he’s most vulnerable. A woman is strong when she chose to, and she can play the “weaker vessel” if she wants to.
And as a man, you have your roles and responsibilities to play in your relationship. No matter how strong a woman appears to be, she needs the help of her man. Provide help when she needs it. Give her a helping hand when she did not ask for it. To assume your woman can multitask without helping her is only an avenue to make her age faster.
What makes a man the head is not about the title, it’s in his ability to stand up to his duty as a leader, husband, father, and priest. When a man fails to own up to his priesthood, his wife would be victims of charlatans or false prophets who parade themselves as men of God.
It is sheer ignorance for a man to accept the fact that his wife is more spiritual or financially buoyant without striving to be better (not for competition).
When the parties involved in a relationship mutually fulfill their roles and responsibilities, there’s peace, cohesion, and an unbreakable bond between them. Meanwhile, it takes responsibility to own up to one’s duties in a relationship; this is why marriage is for responsible people.
Lastly, a man’s roles can be summed up into 4P’s: provide, protect, presence, and profess. Provide for your woman and family, it’s more than money. Protect them, it’s not about living in a secured house with fire-rated and burglar-proof doors and windows; secure them physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Profess your love to your spouse and children. Be available, don’t be a stranger in your family.
However, as important as it is to fulfill one’s roles and responsibilities in a relationship, ensure you become the right person and marry right so that discharging it won’t be cumbersome. Never ignore your roles and responsibilities, because doing so leads to a failed relationship.