Have you ever imagined how often many use this phrase but do not mean it?
How many times have you been told this phrase but the person who said it never meant what he or she says? Of all words that are commonly said in relationships, “I love you” doesn’t cost a dime to be uttered – anybody can say it.
Many ladies have been told this, only for them to experience heart break later.
Some ladies had told some men this phrase, only to be enraptured with love in the bosom of a stranger; yet, “I love you” became their national anthem.
To tell a lie, according to Merriam Webster dictionary, is to make an untrue statement with the intent to deceive. Many do not know when this term is true or it’s simply a big fat lie. Understand this: saying “I love you” may not indicate you are the only person in his or her life, or that you are needed. Many say it when they don’t mean it.
The truth may hurt, but it heals faster than a lie.
When the opposite sex tells you “I love you,” before you swallow it hook, line and sinker, consider these.
1. Action
Action they say, speaks louder than voice, is a golden nugget that you should never ignore. A person can say one thing, and their action would suggest another.
If he tells you how much he loves you, but he physically or emotionally abuses you, don’t be deceived. If she frequently chorus “I love you” but unrepentantly disrespects you, it’s wise to do the needful.
If he truly loves you, he should never demand for sex persistently when you’re not married. If she loves you, she wouldn’t turn you to her ATM.
Meanwhile, scripture has it that love not in word or tongue, but in deed and in truth (1 John 3:18). Never mistaken his or her words for action.
The next thing to check is their…
2. Reaction
There’s always a cause and effect in every situation, just as there is an action or reaction for every habit.
When a person says “I love you,” examine their reaction now or moments later. At times, this phrase could just be said to get you fooled or play on your emotions.
The only time some people would utter this kind of statement is to pet you when they have just hurt you. And if you won’t be deceived with this “sweet” phrase, study their reactions whenever it is voiced out.
Watch the way she reacts to you when she’s angry. Pay attention to the way he behaves when he’s angered too.
When they vent their anger by hitting anything on sight, you might end up becoming a victim of physical abuse in marriage.
If “I love you” is genuinely said, you would see it in their…
3. Sincerity
Someone said, “When wealth is gone, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost, but when integrity is lost, everything is lost.”
“I love you” can be said out of a sincere heart, and also from a pretentious heart. How to discern between the two is to check how consistent their word is with their actions. When the action and reaction is inconsistent with the word, it is wise to treat such matter with a pinch of salt.
If he sincerely loves you, he’ll be patient with you. When she loves you truly, she would seek to understand you as you understood each other.
But if you can’t discern between pretense or sincerity through these checklists, please…
Pray.
Does it sound weird?
Most times, the best of an intelligent referee may not sense a foul play in the field even when it is glaring to spectators and players around.
This of course, could happen in relationships.
You know why?
The (human) heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. Who can know it?
Even if their words seem to be consistent with their action and reactions, how can you peep into their heart of hearts to know their motive?
Do not forget that actors and actresses could perfectly play a role as though they were the real characters; yet, it’s just but a movie script. Should you intend to commit yourself to a life long relationship leading to marriage, please do not be swift to take “I love you” to heart.
Ladies, don’t allow this phrase get you in bed, nor take it as a marriage proposal or a request for a lifelong commitment.
Men, don’t be emotional or committed when this phrase is said a dozen times to you. Before you take “I love you” as a serious thing, certify it to be authentic, in deed and in truth – by observation and revelation.
Remember, love is not in word or tongue, but in deed and in truth.
