In recent times, the news of TuFace (or 2Face) and his baby mamas spread out like a wildfire on social media. Bloggers said a lot about it to gain traffic, while some assume the role of a counselor or judge over the matter.
While I do not write this to cast a stone of blame at anyone, during my moment of contemplation on this issue, there were some things I found out you’d surely benefit from which would help your life and relationship.
J. Michael asserts that there are always two sides to every story. Understanding is a three-edged sword. Your side, their side, and the truth in the middle. Without jumping to conclusions, these are some truths and lessons to consider about this celebrity couple.
What are they?
1. The foundation of your relationship matters a lot
Where, when, how you met, and what brought you two together form the basis and foundation of your relationship. The duo met when they were probably teenagers (Annie was 15. Who knows how old 2Face was?) and the spark was second to none.
Although, it’s not impossible to meet the love of your life at a tender age, let time and chances work things out. What would be would be if God wanted it to be.
How BankyW met Adesua is a love story that would leave goosebumps on your skin when you hear it. You’d be shocked to know that those celebrities who feared God have good marriages than those who think everything is just booze, dope, glamour, and the glitz.
Let God bring you together, not feelings or lust.
2. Don’t ignore God in your quest for a partner
Do you think if God had been fully involved in their relationship their dirty linen would have been washed in the public?
Chemistry isn’t enough to start a love relationship, not even becoming the best of friends. Your best friend today may become your worst enemy later in marriage.
A successful marriage is far beyond marrying your best friend or what have you, let God guide you. The fact that you go to church doesn’t mean He’s involved; you need to make Him the Alpha and the Omega of the whole process.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding.
3. A spouse who doesn’t change before marriage is unlikely to change afterward
Barely after their first breakup, he fertilized the eggs of two women. What a striker! Will you call that a mistake? Change is a decision, and it’s personal.
From an online source, he publicly declared and apologized for being a chronic womanizer. A man or woman who does not change before marriage may not change after it.
If you can’t deal with cheat, a womanizer, anger, or an insecure suitor, don’t stay put. Don’t endure a relationship because of the personality impression the person has, let God have the final say.
No one cannot change, but God won’t change a person who’s unwilling to change.
4. Choose character over beauty
Almost all his baby mamas are beautiful, but beauty isn’t enough to keep or make a marriage successful.
A beautiful woman without discretion is like a golden ring in the snout of a pig, and a handsome man who lacks a good character is a pain in the neck.
Choose a spouse with an enviable character.
Choose the fear of God over beauty.
Choose godliness over sexiness.
Beauty isn’t as important as character. The success or failure of your marriage is tied to your character and your spouse’s.
5. Fame and shame are closely related
We all want to associate with the famous; but a mistake done when you’re famous would land you in shame, especially when you can’t handle it.
And like the saying, “Those who live in a glass house should not throw stones” is true when you appear in the limelight. What you do when you’re nobody wouldn’t raise much t, but when you become somebody, it would spread like harmattan fire.
Before fame (whether it’s obvious or not), stay away from everything that would lead to shame.
6. Don’t spread all your clothes in public
Some things are best kept secret rather than bringing them to the fore.
Whether your spouse is amazing, or super-amazing; no one cares. You attract more enemies than friends when you bring all your life issues to social media.
Some issues could have been amicably resolved if they hadn’t been brought to the cyberworld. Are they the only celebrity? No, and saying this isn’t sarcasm. Let your success or failures be kept private. If you want the praise of men, let others do it.
Don’t blow your trumpet so that when the music fades, you’d be the only one to know it.
7. Say no to illicit sex
I reiterate, say no to illicit sex. Only a tomfool would mock that. The shame and dishonor that illicit sex brings, whether you’re a celebrity or not, can never be compared with the pleasure derived from it.
Sadly, what God detests has been esteemed by many. When people desecrate sex or marriage, you can’t expect them to win God’s approval or get the best of it.
No matter your education, orientation, or inclination in life, illicit sex is an outright evil that nobody can escape its penalty. The only way to escape it is to abstain from anything that would lead you to it.
As I cap my pen, marriage is beautiful, and marital sex is wonderful. Any deviation from how God commanded it to be is catastrophic. I pray they’d be able to straighten out their rough edges but let those that have ears hear, lest they end up in destruction.