There’s a right time to explore your sexuality, and there’s a wrong time to do so. We are in a world where most singles are in a rush to have sex with their partners and they are not ready to bear whatever consequence that come later.
Sex is good for the body, but there’s a time when having it will do more harm than good to your spirit, soul, and body.
It is, however, unfortunate how many people are ignorant of what about sex is all about. There’s a right time for everything in life. If you do the right thing at the wrong time, you’d be exposed to the consequence.
There’s a time for which sex is to be explored and there’s another time which you’re not meant to explore it. If you explore it at the wrong time, you’ll be faced with the terrible consequences that come with its illicit use, and if you wait to have it at the right time, you’ll never regret you did.
When is the best time to have sex?
I know many might be so irrational when it comes to the issue of sex and it’s timing. The world will tell you when it feels right to have it, and your own body reactions could also set a tone for its exploration.
But is it right based on this premise?
The best time to have sex is when you won’t regret ever doing it. It’s not about feeling okay because it’s your choice, it’s about its effect on your life, those who look up to you and what it does to you before God.
It’s not right to have sex when you wouldn’t be proud of yourself and you’re not ready to face the consequence.
I don’t mean ‘bragging’ about it as some guys would do, or how it makes some ladies feel afterward. It is right when you can confidently encourage the upcoming generation about the price and the prize you earned for doing it at the right time and with the right person.
It is not pride to have sex when the consequence would make you a single mother, or to father a child out of wedlock as a result of the circumstance you ignorantly put yourself into. It is not just about being “smart” to avoid all that. It is proper when your story can positively influence the younger generation.
It’s not the right time to have sex when the fear of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancy, guilt, condemnation, abortion, and other evils that come with it grips your mind. It’s better to have it when you’ll be ‘naked and unashamed’ with the right person and in the right place – in marriage – than to have it when you will be ashamed of yourself.
Do you know that there’s no safe sex outside or before marriage?
Regardless of what the society will say to encourage the use of contraceptives or becoming ‘faithful’ to your partner when you’re not married, sex is only safe for you in the ‘marriage bed’.
This truth will become itchy to the ears of some but it doesn’t still annul the validity of it.
Do you know that the wrong timing of sex has done more harm than good? It’s often the cause why some men “die” untimely and some married women too would lose their marriage as a result of an extramarital affair.
Also, lots of destinies have been mortgage on this premise. A lot of promising young men and women had fragmented their lives because of sex and they’re just but a ‘walking corpse’ in life.
For the few that would heed godly advice, arm yourself with these truths.
Trust me, I know it’s difficult when the hormones secrete the desire to have it, or the society makes it encouraging on a platform of the freedom of choice. You should honor God with your body and save yourself from the harm its wrong use and timing would bring.
The best time to embrace sex is ONLY in marriage and not outside it. God frowns at fornication and adultery (Heb. 13:4) and that He’s merciful doesn’t remove the consequence of its abuse and its effect on your life even if He forgives.
Embrace sex when you’d be proud to become a responsible father or mother, not by circumstance but with the right choice. Don’t use sex to raise ‘ungodly’ offspring that would lack godly values and increase decadence in society.
And if you have done it wrongly, God is able to forgive you when you do not repeat such act and you’d embrace purity. The likes of masturbation, pornography, or sexual immorality aren’t alternatives to premarital or extramarital sex. Never!
If you’re unmarried, this is the time to shun sex, master self-control, and pursue God and other things that are better than sex – making a positive and eternal impact. And the married should remain faithful to their partners.
The world is full of sexually perverted youths but is in dire need of those who would make a positive change in their generation.
Explore your sexuality at the right time and for the right purpose.