“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart” – Nelson Mandela
Violence is a language, likewise love, peace, unity, or hatred. Love can be communicated either verbally, orally, or through your actions or inaction. If your partner would express or receive love, you must talk to them in their love language.
The way each of us perceived love is different, and if love must be felt, it must be expressed to us in our language; this does not refer to your native dialect.
However, marriage was ordained by God, entered into by men and women, but what keeps them married is built on love. It is unhealthy to communicate love to your partner in a different language other than theirs; doing so brings misunderstanding and disunity.
What’s your partner’s love language, have you found it?
Gary Chapman, an American Christian author, asserts that there are 5 love languages that spouses can use to express and receive love in their relationship.
The likes of words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, acts of service, and quality time can be used. Your partner would be deprived of love when you do not communicate with them in their love language.
It would be weird when my perception of receiving love is through acts of service, and you think through quality time or physical touch I should experience it; it won’t work that way.
And if need be, ask your partner in what ways do they receive love, if you can’t study them enough to find out. In love relationships, you may not have to talk verbally, but your action would speak louder than words.
Meanwhile, one of the major benefits of talking to your spouse in their love language is that it goes straight to their heart. Saying “I love you” is not reasonable when your deeds speak otherwise.
However, mastering your spouse’s love language is sin qua non to the bliss you’d experience in your relationship. I hope you know that communication, through the use of the right language is the lifeblood and the oxygen of a relationship.
If you do not talk to each other in their love language, intimacy will be affected by such ignorance or negligence.
By the way, you may not convey love language to your boss or colleagues at work, but you can relate with them in love. This would go a long way to touch their hearts. Even if you work in a hostile environment, let love lead in the way you’d react to issues and interact with one another therein.
And as you prepare for the weekend, and the new month, take it upon yourself to improve your communication with your spouse, especially in their love language. And in your workplace, let the love of God flood your heart so you’d be patient and understand them.
