Marriage is a relationship whose purpose was created far beyond pleasure, but for the fulfillment of a divine assignment. Adam was seen to be without a helper, hence, God created a help meet for him.
Before the fall, he and his wife were a formidable force who partnered with God in carrying out the task He assigned to them on earth, but after it, they no longer made any influence.
Do you know that marriage is a relationship whose influence would be remarkably felt in the society, nation, and the world at large when those in it go therein for a purpose, and not for pleasure?
Although it wasn’t used in the context of marriage, there’s a portion in the scripture where the Bible says one shall chase a thousand and two shall chase ten thousand to flight.
Why do you want to marry? Who do you want to marry? What will your marriage be known for?
These are good questions you should ask yourself as you contemplate marriage or you’re already married. You know why? Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor (Eccl. 4:9). However, two can only be better when they agree with each other, and their coming together makes them better than one.
It would be worse when you as a good man or woman goes into marriage with a bad spouse, or you’re married to one. All these carnal preferences of he’s tall, rich, dark, and handsome; or she’s beautiful, sexy, and endowed aren’t the essence of marriage.
Marry for a purpose – not a mundane one – and not for pleasure. The purpose of why you marry would determine the outcome of your married life.
When two purpose-oriented persons marry each other, the outcome of such marriage would be profound; because the success they would achieve will be great. But if you marry for pleasure, and mundane reasons, your marriage will become like every other marriage that has no impact on society.
Now to my question, why do you want to marry?
Please ask yourself this thought-provoking question, and provide a soul-searching answer to it. If the purpose why you want to be married won’t have any effect on your society or His kingdom, it would be better you pause and evaluate if getting married is truly what you need now.
If your purpose for marriage is to escape being single or lonely, you’d pair yourself with the person you shouldn’t have been married to. I know time isn’t on your side, but do not allow impatience to lead you to the wrong person.
The power of two purpose-oriented, kingdom-minded, and destiny-fulfilling persons in marriage can’t be compared with a single, unmarried person; or only when one is purpose-oriented in marriage. God made it so, for two to be better than one in marriage.
If your marriage is not geared towards laboring for a worthy cause, which reward will you have here on earth and in the hereafter? See, it’s not enough to make money or live a good life, which cause will your marriage be known for?
I’ve read about Denzel and Pauletta Washington, I know of our own Odumakin here in Nigeria, and many unknown couples that are transforming the evil norms in our society. If you can’t change the world, be a change in your family, street, community, or state.
You don’t need to be in politics or become a minister of the Gospel, or an activist to effect a change; all you need to do is to discover the areas of change you can set in motion, and marry someone who would be of help to accomplish it.
Who do you want to be married to?
The container or the content?
When a wrong person marries the right person, such union is dead on arrival, and it would be an endurance trek. But when two right people marry each other, these two are better than one.
Marry a man or woman of purpose. Marry someone who would be of help to the fulfillment of your destiny, dreams, and vision. Above all, marry someone who God has chosen for you; it’s not one particular person, but several of them, only allow Him to guide you to the right person – don’t lean on your understanding.
What two persons would achieve in marriage, especially when they’re going in the same direction, can’t be compared with what one person would achieve.
What would your marriage be known for?
That you came into this world, got married, have children, became parents and that’s all? Hey, I refused to live a wasted life and marriage. How about you?
You might have read about Ananias and Sapphira in the Bible or Ian Brady and Myra Hindley who committed heinous crimes in their days. However, Aquila and Priscilla were Apostle Paul’s helpers in Christ. As couples, they were instrumental to his success in the ministry.
Marry for a purpose, not for an ephemeral and insignificant reason. Remember, who you are and the kind of person you marry would determine the kind of marriage you’d have, plus the fact that it would determine if your marriage would make an impact or not.
Marriage is more than living together as couples, parents, or fulfill societal expectations, let your marriage be known for a noble cause on earth and the other side of the divide.