Who you marry in life determines the kind of experience you’ll have in marriage. No matter how successful or great in life you might seem to be, if you marry a weakling who’s not willing to improve, you’ll have to paddle him or her throughout the marital journey.
You can’t expect an eagle to walk with a chicken and live to fulfill her purpose. Who are you engaged to be married to?
What are the facts you mustn’t play with before you choose whom to marry?
1. Who you marry determines whether you’d go far or remain stagnant in life
Beyond physical compatibility, there are some people you should never yoke your destiny with in marriage, otherwise, God’s plan for your life will be thwarted. This is why it’s better to trust in the Lord with all your heart for guidance than to lean on your understanding.
There are some destinies that won’t agree even if they appear compatible in the physical, or in other areas, and you can’t know all these unless you pray.
Marriage isn’t just the coming together of a man and woman, it’s the fusion of their spirit and soul to be one. The Creator stated that they’ll be ONE FLESH. Be very careful and prayerful to know who you should journey with so you won’t choose the person that would hinder your progress in life.
Be more conscious of who would help you fulfill your destiny based on HIs guidance than to only find someone that catches your fancy which might be a pain in the future.
2. You can’t know the right partner with your understanding
Many of you may not agree with this truth but I will emphasize it. Marriage isn’t man’s idea, it is God’s ordained institution. You can’t know what is in the heart of a man (and woman) on a superficial level. This is why I want you to take your time to pray enough before you make or accept any proposal.
The heart of man (and woman) is evil and desperately wicked, who can know it? You can’t even know it if you date for five years, or cohabit for a decade.
The only way to know or see the real intent of a person’s heart is to ask God for revelation in the place of prayer. the wise man in the book of Proverbs asserts that you should trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding; acknowledge Him in all your ways and He shall direct your path.
Beware of deceivers who lurk around in religious gatherings to marry innocent brothers or sisters; when they get what they want, you’ll know who they are.
3. Don’t rush to choose a partner, take time to develop yourself
If you marry a God-ordained partner but you fail to work on yourself you’ll mess up your union. There’s more to marriage than the excitement of being in a relationship or desiring to be engaged by all means.
You need to be mentally, financially, spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically mature. Develop yourself to be the right partner. It takes time to be a good spouse, marriage doesn’t make you one.
Acquire godly knowledge and understanding; have a good source of income; be mature in your personal walk with God; master emotional stability, financial independence, and work on your mind. Let all of these find expression in you.
You don’t become the right person in marriage, you become the right person prior to marriage and continue to sustain and improve your rightness in marriage.
4. The kind of person you marry determines your experience with marriage
If you’re married to a baby who’s clothed in an adult figure, be prepared to nurse a baby in marriage. A man or woman can act like a baby mentally although they would appear as an adult physically. If you marry a cheat, you’ll believe every male or female is a cheat. And if you marry a spiritual weakling, be ready to do every spiritual exercise that would make your marriage survive.
Marriage becomes successful when two mature people enter into the union or a mature spouse journeys with an immature partner who is willing to grow. But if two immature partners marry each other, it’s such a disaster awaiting manifestation.
5. Men looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart
Do you need further clarity on this?
Well, it’s normal to consider their physical appearance, personality impression, financial worth, spiritual charisma, and material possession, but all these do not make them suitable for you in marriage. It is the heart of a man or woman that determines how compatible they are in a marriage. It is the heart that defines the motive why they want to marry you; it also determines their mindset about marriage.
If you marry some whose look is appealing, but their heart is like a rotten tomato, you’re in for it. I’d advise you to seek God who knows the heart of His creature to guide you than to lean on your understanding.
Think about your life and destiny, who you marry determines a lot of things about your life now and in the hereafter. So, choose wisely, patiently, and prayerfully.