Feelings have done more harm than good to many in their life and relationships. Some have made major life decisions on it and have regretted it bitterly, while some have been blinded by it and couldn’t think clearly up until now.
I’d share some insights on what feeling is up to, and I have gathered it as a random thought. Please don’t just rush to read. Read, ponder, and reflect on it over your life and make amends where necessary.
1. No matter how spiritual or carnal you are, feeling is that part of every human that doesn’t respect the anointing, nor can it be born again. You can only control it when you’re led by the Spirit rather than allow the flesh to lead you.
2. It’s easy for feelings to evolve between two persons who communicate frequently and get along easily; but if care isn’t taken, I mean that you set and respect boundaries, you’ll cross the Rubicon. Mind you, there’s a thin line between lust and feelings.
3. As a married person, you can have feelings for your single friend if you two bond so well. But wisdom demands that you should be faithful to your marital vows, and let the single respect his or her integrity and dignity.
4. You need feelings to love, but love isn’t all about feelings. Feeling is that part of love that sustains emotional bond or intimacy; and it’s formed based on attraction, communication, and likeness. If all these don’t exist, feelings won’t surface.
5. If you’re a young man and you are in a relationship, I mean friendship with a much younger lady, respect your boundaries. Don’t allow feelings to downplay your worth before her, and vice versa.
6. For those who trust God on who to marry and you’re in a friendship relationship with the opposite sex, before you assume or jump into conclusion as though God is speaking, check if it’s not feeling that’s saying something. Feelings too have a voice, and it takes discernment to know who’s speaking – flesh or the Spirit.
7. When friendship with the opposite sex is not built on godly purpose but pleasure, feelings and lust will completely take over. Don’t let your relationship be built solely on “I like you”, “I love you”, “You’re beautiful”, “I’m missing you”, “You look sweet” and so on. As good as they sound, they can entrap you.
8. When it comes to your relationship with God, don’t build your relationship with Him on feelings. Times would come when you don’t feel like praying, studying the Bible, or doing spiritual activities, but when your relationship is built on love, you will decide to engage in what will draw you closer even if the feeling is not there.
9. Trust me, love that would sustain your marriage is more than feelings. Feelings will come and go, but it’s your choice and decision to remain in love that will keep you standing. Let your love be built on conviction and an assurance that you’re with the right partner (soul mate). This will keep you standing when there are reasons not to fall in love.
10. Feelings can be terminated if what got you attracted to him or her is physical, or material things. Be attracted by purpose, not by pleasure or carnal things.
11. If you want to know whether it is God or not that’s speaking, give the relationship time (space) to be away. If it’s God, you will see reasons why you need to be together, but if it’s just feelings, it’ll die a natural death and you would see clearly why you shouldn’t be together.
12. As invisible and powerless it may seem, feelings can cloud your sense of judgment. And like Samson, you’ll say, “Marry her for me for she pleases me”. Feelings would blind your eye from reality when there’s a looming danger ahead. Love is not blind but feelings!
13. The truest sign of maturity in a relationship is when you can control your feelings rather than allow it to control you. Some call it discipline, self-control but I call it, “subdugation”. Don’t check the dictionary o, you may not see it there.
14. The only way to overcome feelings especially when it’s negative such as the feelings to touch indecently, talk erotically, or eat the forbidden “ample” is through the Spirit of God in you. You won’t be able to run when “konji” is at work. Fleeing the appearance of evil will be impossible when you’re intensely arrested by feelings, but when the Spirit of God is at work, He will give you the enabling and restraining grace to deny all forms of ungodliness.
15. While deciding on whom to marry, don’t use your heart but your head. The heart feels but the head thinks. The heart gets emotional but the head uses discretion (common sense). The head faces reality but the heart is carried away by fantasies.
Do you have control over your feelings or it controls you? Do you see clearly or you’re blinded by it? Take time to reflect over these and make amends.
This thing called feeling is a big deal. Don’t be trapped!