Chief Willie is a wealthy businessman who has an affluent business partner whom they’ve been in partnership for over two decades. When it was time for one of chief’s sons to marry, his business partner and friend, Mr. Ugo, also having a beautiful daughter that was fit for marriage, suggested that the chief’s son could marry his daughter so they can preserve the posterity of their agelong business. And as fate would have it, Chief Willie welcomed the idea, the children loved each other, and in a short while, they got married.
The above scenario is called matchmaking, and it can take several forms.
On the off chance that you are curious about the meaning of this word, “Matchmake,” it is an old practice done by guardians, some parents, men of God or the people who have “exceptional” interests in the conjugal undertakings of two people.
Matchmaking is the process whereby someone suggests or attempts to bring two unmarried individuals together in an attempt to promote a marriage, either for personal, political, selfish or without ulterior motives.
However, God was the first matchmaker in human history. God brought Adam and the woman together under a marriage covenant. But because of the failure of this union, many erroneously believed that God is no longer in the business of matchmaking when it comes to marriage.
What’s the big deal about this thing called matchmaking?
Many have been maritally mismatched through matchmaking by their parents, or other notable persons in their lives.
When you allow anyone to matchmake you, they’ll take God’s glory and you might also fall into manipulation – marrying the wrong person. Don’t make anyone a god in your life that you can’t hear God’s voice for yourself but theirs. More so, God can use a man or woman to bring you together, but they will never take His glory in your life.
In case you don’t know, God is still occupied with the business of matchmaking His sons and daughters together regardless of their age, class, status, denomination, or location.
If He did it for Adam in the garden of Eden, He can still do it for you today if you believe. And trust me, He’s still doing it for His genuine children till date. I knew those He did it for. However, if God will matchmake you with any of His children whom He has prepared for you, as a man, learn these truths from Adam.
1. Stay in your garden
Every purpose minded men have a place where God has kept them to work for His purpose. Your garden could be in your church, where you serve His purpose, or in your career where you establish the influence of His kingdom. If Adam had left the garden, God wouldn’t be responsible for His marriage partner. So, discover God’s purpose for your life and be in the place of its fulfillment.
The decision to find who to marry wasn’t Adam’s, but God took the responsibility to provide a partner for him. Adam wasn’t stressed, worried, or frustrated whilst looking for who to marry, yet He was at rest, and was busy with the task God gave him.
Brother, go and rest.
Rest means a state of calm (emotional, mental, psychological) without worrying about who she is, where she is, when she will come and how she’d look. When you’re unrest, you’d adopt worldly means to find her.
3. Divine timing
While he was very still, God was making the woman for him and at the right time, He brought her. Some literature assert that Adam was 103 years of age before the woman came into his life. It was never the day God made him that He gave him a wife.
God’s timing isn’t the same as your timing. It’s not the day you graduated from school or that He showed you something about her that He’d bring her your way.
Dear sisters, learn some insight from the woman.
1. God made her from the man’s rib
Sister, don’t rush.
Let God make you for the man that He’s preparing you for. You are not to compete with a man, that’s a misplaced priority and a disorder in the divine hierarchy, you are to complete and complement him.
The earlier you understand this, the better you know the role you are to play in his life when he comes. The woman is a helper to the man. As a bone, you are to SUPPORT him, and as a flesh, you are to COVER him.
Allow Him to make you a help meet and don’t let a man make you his wife through dating, cohabitation, pregnancy-induced marriage or whatever means he chose. Let Him make you spiritually, purpose wise, emotionally and in other areas.
2. God brought her to the man
Be discerning. God can use your problem to place you where your solution is.
I heard about a sister who couldn’t go for NYSC and all her efforts to sort out the issue proved abortive until she went to NYSC Hq office in Abuja. It was in a church she worshiped one Sunday that her would-be husband, a pastor, sighted her and the rest was history.
Instead of crying for a partner, ask God to orchestrate the good event that would take you to where your future husband is.
3. Adam saw her
Try not to stoop so low to charm a man for marriage, it could be western, but that’s unscriptural.. The most noteworthy thing you can do is to allow God to guide your steps to where the man is.
Ruth never went to woo Boaz, either by style, subtlety, or by prank; she only acted on Naomi’s instructions coupled with the fact that she was industrious. Naomi is a type of the Holy Spirit – the spirit of counsel. Don’t believe those who twist the scripture to suit their human ideology. God still speaks!
To have God matchmake you with any of His children, it’s simple when you do these.
- Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Commit your ways to Him. Delight yourself in Him, and rest in Him; do not fret.
- Do not lean on your own understanding. Dating a brother or a sister is simply leaning onto your own understanding while thinking God can’t matchmake you. It’s wrong!
- In all your ways, acknowledge Him. Before you make a proposal, seek His face; before you accept a proposal, ask Him. Seek His guidance whenever anyone approaches you for a relationship. Remember, those who seek Him early shall find Him (Prov. 8:17). The earlier the better!
- And He shall direct your path. How will He do it? Just the way He directs you in your major or minor decisions in life. He can do so through divine revelation or through spiritual discernment. Be sensitive!
Don’t allow anyone to matchmake you with anyone they feel is right, because the cons far outweighs the pros; let God matchmake you – you won’t regret it, I tell you.