Why do people disagree with each other to the point where it becomes an irreconcilable difference and then ends in divorce? Or are there issues in a relationship that can never be solved when you agree with your spouse (or partner)?
No relationship can be blissful when the parties involved do not choose to walk the path of agreement. When an agreement is not reached, it leads to disagreement and then misunderstanding.
Agreement is coming to terms over differing opinions. According to Lexicon, it is an understanding to follow a course of conduct, convention, concord, and covenant. It is the meeting of minds regardless of individual differences.
It’s difficult to agree with each other when nobody wants to compromise or see things from the other’s perspective. When a man or woman is self-centered, they would always want their will or opinions to prevail in all situations.
Scripturally, two can only walk (and work) together except they come into agreement. In what ways are you not in agreement with your spouse or partner?
The truth is that regardless of our differences, an agreement can be reached even though we see things differently. Without an agreement, peace and progress cannot be achieved; and without it, it would be difficult to walk together in love. It takes agreement to plan together, and pursue your goals and aspirations as a couple.
However, no matter your differences, an agreement must be reached financially, sexually, spiritually, and in other areas where it would be needed. Meanwhile, it would require a great deal of understanding to come into agreement in any relationship.
How would you rate your level of agreement between you and your partners on a Likert scale of 1-5? Strongly agree; agree; moderately agree; disagree; strongly disagree? Your answer determines the strength and bliss in your relationship.
It takes agreement to adhere to the principles that make for a successful relationship. For instance, you can’t leave to cleave to each other without an accurate understanding of what it entails and a mutual agreement to do so.
A man would be tied to his mother’s apron and a woman to her dad’s loin for as long as they do not understand what it takes to leave and cleave. And if there’s an understanding of what to do, it takes agreement to implement it.
More so, without an agreement to put an end to disagreements or pressing issues, your misunderstanding would linger on for as long as you choose to.
It takes agreement to fight battles or overcome challenges in your relationship. When you choose to disagree with your partner over issues you could have mutually agreed to, you set up a crack in your relationship and your partner would be vulnerable.
Another importance of agreement is that it helps you to build an enviable and successful intimacy. Take a look at the team who built the Tower of Babel in the Bible. They knew what they wanted and they agreed to achieve it. However, mutual agreement is required for teamwork and success.
To my single friends out there, don’t propose or accept the proposal of anyone when you’re not in mutual agreement in important areas of your life and destiny. Don’t let love be blind that you’d ignore major areas of concern.
Why should you agree to walk the aisle with a man who cheats on you? Why would you think that lady would change now that she still keeps in touch with her ex? Marriage doesn’t change anyone, it only amplifies their personality.
Agreement is important before you say, “Yes, I do,” and it’s equally important for you to enjoy bliss in marriage. You can disagree to agree, that’s fine, but never allow disagreement to degenerate into misunderstanding. Quickly resolve issues when you disagree so that your disagreement doesn’t escalate and lead to unresolved issues.
Can two walk or work together except they’re in agreement? Pride, prejudice, and ignorance would make you disagree with your spouse and you’d remain adamant. Why would you be insensitive to the needs of your partner? Why do you think your way, view, or opinion is always and only the right one without seeing things from others’ perspectives?
Walk in agreement, and you’d never regret it. But if you remain rigid, you’d destroy the glee and growth of your relationship.
