We all crave for love: to be in a relationship with someone we love, and who loves us in return. The desire to be in love and to be loved is peculiar to everyone, whether you are a Christian, or not. But the challenge may have is they fail to do what they ought to do before they enter into a relationship. And this is the major cause of all relationship issues many faces.
Dear Christian singles, it’s not a crime to be in a love relationship, but it’s detrimental to your life when you enter into a relationship when it is still good that you should be alone.
In the true sense, Adam was alone, but he enjoyed a perfect koinonia with God before He made him a helpmeet. Because he was alone, he could build up his spiritual senses to discern when the right woman came.
Before you enter into a relationship, what is your personal relationship with God?
This is not to sound religious, but it’s of prime importance that you do not joke about your relationship with God. Knowing God must come first before you desire an opposite-sex relationship.
Relationships would be a distraction when your personal relationship with God is never what it should be. You can’t put the cart before the horse and you’d expect to have a smooth ride. Do you know God, and does He know you? Your personal relationship with God is more important than your love relationship.
It is not bad to desire an opposite-sex relationship. The first thing to do to have a family is to have a relationship, but your first relationship experience can either make or mar the foundation of your family life.
Some Christian sisters wouldn’t have lost their virginity or experienced heartbreak if they hadn’t entered into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship too early. Some brothers too won’t have had their bitter experience about women had it been they were in a relationship at the right time.
An experience they say is the best teacher, but avoid negative and terrible experiences that will alter your mindset about love and relationship, and concerning men and women.
Before God gave Adam a wife, Adam had a personal relationship with Him. The health of your spiritual life determines the health of your overall well being. It is a misplaced priority to seek an opposite-sex relationship when you don’t have an intimate relationship with God.
How do you intend to relate lovingly with your partner when you don’t have regard for God? “I love you” without the fear of God will not only cheat on you but would break your heart. Many of you do not know that it is when you love God first that you can love your partner better.
You can follow celebrity preachers on relationships, read all books there is to read about love and relationships, but if you don’t know God intimately, all you know would only motivate, but will not transform you.
It is a mislaid pursuit to pursue an immoral relationship at the expense of your personal relationship with God. It’s easy to know who to marry when your relationship with God is rosy.
This is the time you quit chasing shadows of immoral relationships and focus on knowing God intimately so He can reveal to you those things you need to know. The secret of the Lord is with those who fear Him, not with churchgoers or Christians by name.
Before you go into a love relationship, have a personal relationship with God. It takes time to know God, it’s not a one-time or religious thing; you have to diligently seek Him until He reveals Himself to you.
Knowing God is not “my church” thing, or dependent on, “our pastor says” thing, it is a personal encounter. More so, it takes hard work, determination, consistency, hunger, and thirst to know Him. If you are lazy to pray or spend quality time with God, you can’t know Him.
If you find it easy to spend hours checking Facebook notifications, Instagram videos, and photos, but when it is time to have a quiet time with God you snore in bed, then I’m afraid you may not enjoy God’s reward for those who diligently seek Him.
And because of the cost dimension of knowing God before seeking a love relationship, many cannot pay the price, hence they dabble into the wrong relationship which destroys a lot in their lives.
Dear Christian singles, don’t be among those who jump into an opposite-sex relationship and end up having a bad experience with men and women on relationship matters.
Not all men are promiscuous. Not all women are materialistic. Your experience with men and women in relationships happened because you were jumping from one person to the other. If you stay with God till He guides you to the right person, you won’t be a philosopher for having a negative experience.
Stay with God. Build your personal relationship with Him. It may be out of vogue to trust God to guide you before your need for the right partner; but trust me, those who do so are better off than those who have a terrible experience with relationships.
Do I still have much to say about this? Yeah, but sometimes later. But the conclusion of the whole matter is this: know God intimately so you ain’t going to be desperate or impatiently seek who to marry and with a wrong experience.