(A Must Read For All Ladies)
Have you ever imagined why a man would today be all over you when you’ve not given him sex, but tomorrow after the sex, you’d be the one chasing after him?
If you haven’t thought about that, think about this: why is it that a man no longer has many feelings or his ‘love’ for a lady disappears after sex?
The reason isn’t far-fetched. I’ve found the following points to be the answer.
Some men see some women as sex objects because, from their perception, all that those women can offer is sex, nothing more afterward. This is why some would rather have a baby mama or a girlfriend than to have a wife.
Bear this mind, the major purpose why most men are after women is for sex, not love. When a man lusts after you for sex, he’d do everything humanly possible to get it. And when you “mistakenly” satisfy his desire for fun or sexual pleasure, he’d no longer be interested in you.
Any man that keeps having sex with you has only made you his object of sexual pleasure and when he’s done with you, he leaves and moves on while you’re still busy craving for his commitment or engagement ring.
Hear this, when a person’s intention for getting a thing has been met, his interest or desire would obey the laws of diminishing returns. The same happens to most men when it comes to women and sex.
Second, the lust for sex by an average, natural or carnal man is great. Most men lose control when they’re under the influence of sexual urges (konji). But after you give him sex, he’d regain his senses to discover that he needs more than sex.
Sex is what most men want from women, but their needs from women are way beyond sex. If you think giving a man sex would make him stick with you or become yours, you’re living in a fool’s paradise. Wake up! Don’t ever think that kind of mindset would make a man committed to you after sex.
You must have heard that a woman must keep a man, and many of you think it’s through sex, well done; or that it’s not a man’s duty to keep a woman because it’s men’s world and they’re polygamous in nature. That’s hogwash.
A man who wants to be kept (stay committed and faithful to you) would keep himself without your input because he has made up his mind to do so. But it’s an effort in futility to try and keep a man, especially when he has gone down there, and has not made up his mind to keep himself.
More specifically, some people believe that a man must attain a woman, but the woman must retain the man after sex. This is why some men conclude that they do you a favor by marrying you. But the truth is you do each other well when you marry each other because there’s what a man can’t do without his wife, and vis-a-vis. Our completeness is interwoven in our dependability.
Now, please pay attention to this. If you’d be a lady or a wife that a man would stick with after sex, or you want to offer him something great beyond sex, you need to do this: BE EXCEPTIONAL, BE DIFFICULT TO BE REPLACED OR INDISPENSABLE IN HIS LIFE. Please read that again and muse over it.
The exceptionality or indispensability of a lady (or woman) is not in the size of her breast, the curvature, and protrusion of her buttocks, or the irresistibility and flawlessness of her beauty; it’s in something deeper than that.
To become an indispensable woman in the life of a man beyond sex, add value to his life. Biblically, be a virtuous woman (lady, or wife). The gap between a good wife and a girlfriend is as wide as the gap between life and death.
Be an asset to a man and not a liability.
Giving him sex before marriage, cohabiting with him, doesn’t make you an asset, doing so only shows that you’ve got no value and dignity.
You’re an asset when you spur him to greatness, but a liability when you depend on him for your sustenance. Don’t think a man would make you his wife if your demand from him is greater than your supply in his life, not in monetary or material terms.
What good has your coming into his life done to him since the day he met you, and vice versa?
When you’re an asset to a man, his interest in you, beyond sex increases. But when you’re a liability to his life and destiny, or the only thing he can get from you is sex, he’d get the sex, and after then, moves on.
Women can control men’s access to them for sex, and also, men can’t be influenced to commitment or marriage if they do not see anything special about you. If you like give him good food, crazy sex styles and all that, ‘kole werk’.
Many ladies out there cry that all that most men want is sex. That’s true! What can you offer without or beyond sex? And if you put the cart before the horse, you alone would bear the brunt.
If you do not give them what they want, they’d be forced to douse their erection or calm their sensual desires. But men know that if you refuse, they can get sex elsewhere. And many of you think if a man walks away from your life because you refuse to have sex with him, your life becomes dull, disadvantaged, and deficient. That’s a great delusion!
If all women could zip up, they won’t be crying that men are after sex because there would be no lady out there to give them what they want; but this is impossible until ladies wake up and be indoctrinated with the right philosophy.
I’m sure you know that some married men lose interest in their wives after sex, but why do some stick to their wives?
See, it takes two to tango. Most married men stick to their wives because they are mutually indispensable, committed, adding value, and irreplaceable.
My dear ladies reading this, don’t make your selling point your beauty or those mundane things most of you esteem. Be a woman whose price is far above rubies (sex, sharwama, barbecue, material on monetary gifts).
Beyond having a good character, add value to a man that without you, he’d feel like something great is missing in his life, and make sure you’re that kind of woman, lady, wife, or mother.
Remember, sex doesn’t influence a man to cleave with you, but your enviable character, indispensability, and irreplaceability do the job perfectly without you having to open your bra and pants.
