This is a question every Christian single needs to answer in all sincerity.
God speaks. Your thought speaks. And the devil also says something. However, whose voice you obey determines the outcome of your marital life – who you marry, your experience in marriage, and what you do before you marry.
No father, responsible and caring would allow his children to stray without guidance and direction. But unfortunately, many who claim to know God have not been fathered by Him, especially Christian singles.
Many go to church but leave God out of their marital choice, but when issue comes, they would cry to Him. If God’s not saying anything about your marital life, you’d be frustrated waiting on God for the right person.
God speaks. He only reveals His mind to those who have a growing relationship with Him.
If you don’t have a relationship with God, you’re wasting your time trusting God for a marital partner. Don’t just be a churchgoer or a worker in your church, have an intimate relationship with God where you can hear Him at every point in time.
When you hear God speak about your marital life, you’d never be discouraged by people’s actions or inaction as it thus relates to your marital life. It is your failure to make God your Father that makes you adopt the trial and error (dating) method in search of a partner.
When He speaks, you know what He wants you to do before marriage; you’d know the kind of person He wants you to marry, even though you may not have 100% details about the person, but you’d have more than 50% depending on your track record with Him.
When you hear what God is saying concerning your marital life, you won’t fret or worry when the right person hasn’t come, you’d know what He wants you to do before they arrive.
If you do not hear God speak to you about your marital life, you will speak to yourself about who you want to marry, or you’d allow people to influence you on who to marry. Because many can’t hear God speak, they allow mediums (pastors, prophets, online counselors, etc.) to influence who they marry.
As good as men of God are, they must never take the place of God in your choice of who to marry.
God speaks, but many cannot hear Him because of their sinful and lukewarm heart. Hearing God doesn’t come cheap, there’s a price to pay. You can’t fill your mind with BBNaija, listen and watch all the worldly and profane musical videos, and you’d expect to hear Him.
You must pay the price for separation and fellowship if you want to hear Him clearly in all areas of your life, not in marriage alone. Never lean on your education, exposure, or experience when it comes to choosing a marriage partner, hear from God, and let Him guide you if you don’t want to end in regret.
What is God saying about your marital life? If He is not saying something, it’s your fault, not His. And if He’s saying something, are you doing what He told you, or you’re worried because age is not on your side?
Never enter into a marriage relationship with any man or lady whom God has not given you His consent for such union; doing so is worse than regret. And if He is not saying anything, go back to hear from Him before you take a step further into the relationship.
Let Him lead and guide you, so you won’t have a bad marriage, and marry your enemy. Remember, it is better He speaks to you than to follow what people say or your feelings.
