Some women think that being a virgin keeps a man faithful (don’t get me wrong, being celibate is good, and godly), while some feel that making good food, and their versatility in bed would be helpful. Some others try to be nice to a fault so they can keep their men, but it was only a futile effort because their niceness doesn’t add up.
When has keeping a man become a woman’s sole responsibility as if he’s a pearl that must be kept? Don’t get me wrong, everyone has their roles and responsibilities in marriage, but to be faithful is more of personal responsibility.
However, one truth you should never forget too soon is this, YOU CAN NEVER KEEP THE WRONG MAN. Did you get that?
There’s no way you’d domesticate a pig that it wouldn’t return to the mud, and you can never improve a man’s life when he has been destined for the floor. Every attempt to do so would prove abortive.
Good sex, good food, spending on a man, being submissive, or proving to him that you’re 1000 wife yard material won’t work if you’re with the wrong man. Many things make a man a mismatch for you, but most ladies are too myopic to see it.
A man is wrong not because he isn’t good-looking, wealthy, charismatic, social, spiritual and anointed, nice, loaded, intelligent, hardworking, caring, well-built, and tall. A man is a mismatch to your destiny because you’re not compatible destiny-wise, and his heart (or motive) for coming into your life is wrong.
How can you be destined for the top and hook up with a man who wants to pull you to the floor? When you don’t know what you want then you’d try to keep this kind of man.
Meanwhile, watch it, a man’s motive can be revealed based on what he makes a priority, and what he often talks about, because out of the abundance of the heart, his mouth speaks.
If he wants sex or pleasure, you’d know, except you can’t read the handwriting on the wall. And if he’s a pretender, you can outsmart him when you’re wise, and you have a relationship with the Father of Lights.
Also, keep this truth in your right hand, NEVER TRY TO KEEP A MAN WHOSE MIND HAS BEEN CONDITIONED TO BE LOOSE.
A lot of men with warped mindsets believe that they’re polygamous, and they’re not bounded by any oath to be monogamous. No matter how hard you try, they’ll tell you it’s difficult to stick with one woman for the rest of their life.
If you find yourself with this kind of man, wisdom is profitable to direct. And like I pointed out earlier, what makes a man wrong has to do with his mindset.
If he believes cheating is a norm, or he sees nothing bad in it, save yourself the hurt that comes with sticking with such men.
The third truth you should hug tightly, A MAN KEEPS HIMSELF TO THE DEGREE TO WHAT AND WHO HE’S RESPONSIBLE TO.
Some men kept themselves because of their reputation, or name, but a man who is responsible to God would keep himself because he feared God. This was the situation of Joseph and his encounter with Potiphar’s wife.
A man can profess his undying love to you, yet cheat on you because he doesn’t fear God. Having the fear of God isn’t a religious thing, it is a choice of not doing anything that would make you sin against God.
And now to the question, what keeps a man?
Now, you have known better than sex, good food, money, even good character as some may think doesn’t keep a man faithful. A man keeps himself because he’s answerable to God (he fears God), plus the fact that he chose to be faithful.
If you marry such a man, you’re favored; and if you’d marry that kind of man, involve God.
AND IN MARRIAGE, A MAN IS KEPT BASED ON THE LEVEL OF PEACE HIS WIFE GIVES HIM.
Why should the right man cheat on you when there’s nothing at home that will push him out? If you’re a woman whose character or temperament isn’t accommodating when you’re tensed, or you don’t like it when there’s peace at home, you’d drive your husband away from home.
When there’s a fracas at home, there’s a way you can go about it without escalating it. And this is the way of wisdom and the character of a virtuous woman who will never do her husband evil.
You can’t compare a woman whose home is welcoming to her husband because she’s respectful, supportive, humble, prudent, obedient, and accommodating with the one who nags, and she’s rude and resentful.
Are you a single lady and you’re concerned about what it takes to keep your man because of the issue of fidelity that now circulates the media or becomes a norm? Or you’re a married woman and you don’t know how to keep your husband?
I believe those truths up there would give you an understanding of how to address this issue. Beyond your outward appearance, strive to possess a meek and quiet spirit, and above all, marry the right man. If you marry the wrong one, you’ll do more to keep him, but with the right one and your meekness, you won’t struggle to keep him.
Work on yourself if you want to enjoy your marital life, and do well to marry the right man.