Mistakes are sometimes inevitable in life, but they do not mark the fall of a man or the beginning of his failure. It’s only foolishness to make mistakes more than once and recycle them.
Why do people make mistakes in their relationships?
- They lack good sense, judgment, or discretion.
- They sold the truths they know.
- They were deceived.
- They hastily make decisions they ought to have made thoughtfully.
- They were careless, impatient, and prayerless.
- They repeated an evil trend in their family.
In my local parlance, it’s proverbially said that when a young child falls, he looks forward, but when an older man falls, he’ll look back to see what made him fall, so he can avoid it as he keeps running.
- It is a mistake to fall into the trap of premarital sex once.
- It is an error to commit abortion more than once.
- Truth be told, it’s a violation of God’s word to be a baby mama or papa when the scriptures assert that marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled.
- It is wrong to keep an immoral relationship with the hope it’d lead to marriage when the Bible says flee fornication.
- It’s improper to cohabit with a person you’re not married to.
- More so, becoming pregnant for a man or impregnating a lady doesn’t mean you’ve done the right thing, it is only an act of ignorance.
Any mistake you make more than once only shows that you’ve returned to your vomit like a dog return to his. It’s not a crime to make mistakes in that relationship, but recycling it shows that you’ve not learned from your mistakes.
A wise man would make mistake once and learn to avoid repeating it, but silly people would keep making mistakes and they won’t learn.
Do you want to learn how to avoid making mistakes more than once? Do these 7 things.
1. Sit and think
It has been said that Africans don’t read, and it’s also important to note that they don’t think. If you just made a mistake, cry if you want, but wipe out your tears, sit and think about what made you fall.
When God created the earth and darkness covered it, the Spirit of God brood over the face of the deep. Do you know what that means?
As a verb, He sat quietly and thoughtfully over the situation, and alas, understanding came forth. He said, let there be light and light came forth.
Pull out of the relationship and sit yourself down to think about what made you fall so you can understand what to do to avoid it.
I reiterate, a wise man would learn from his mistakes and avoid them, but fools would recycle their mistakes.
If chatting with the opposite sex in the wee hours of the night made you lose guard, avoid it. If it was frequent communication that fostered your emotional intimacy, then circumvent it.
If you don’t learn from that mistake, don’t be surprised to repeat it.
3. Be careful
You shouldn’t be with the opposite sex and be careless or relate with them carelessly.
Why should you be hugging every Tom, Dick, and Harry and you’d think nothing “they” happen? See, until you’re married, you’re not married yet, so don’t give wifely or husband privilege to anyone who’s not your spouse.
Be careful not to throw your life at someone who only made you an option in his or her life.
4. Be patient
It takes patience to marry the right person, and one of the virtues for a great marriage is also patience.
That all guys are asking you for sex doesn’t mean there are no guys out there who would never coerce you for sexual intercourse. If you allow impatience to push you into the wrong relationship, patience might be difficult to redeem your mistake.
Don’t be under pressure to accept or make a proposal, do your findings adequately, and be careful.
5. Be prayerful
Yes, be prayerful.
Some mistakes can only be avoided prayerfully when it influences your lineage. I hope you know that there are “like mother like daughter” situations and there is an evil pattern that is called “like father like son”.
If your mom is sexually loose, being careful or patient alone might not help unless you deal with it prayerfully. You must resist the temptation to repeat that evil mistake prayerfully.
It’s not enough to be a fine or decent lady or man. Break that evil trend prayerfully so you don’t walk into it unconsciously.
6. Buy the truth, wisdom, instruction, and understanding
You can’t buy the truth from some movies, especially when they promote ungodliness. The truth is found in the Holy Bible. Search the scriptures to know the truth about premarital sex, pornography, or masturbation. Don’t just depend on what my pastor or my friend says.
More so, you can buy the truth as you partner with the Holy Spirit. I’m sure you know that He has an anointing that teaches you all things as you meditate in the Bible.
Buy godly wisdom, and not the wisdom of this world. Wisdom is the application of the knowledge you understood.
Before you make any decision, go for instructions of wisdom. Few online relationship preachers have it, find them. If you can’t, seek counsel for godly counselors; remember, in the multitude of counsel, there’s safety.
What kind of understanding do you have about marriage, sex, relationships, and knowing who to marry? The kind of understanding you acquire would be seen in the outcome of your life in this area.
If your understanding of marriage is archaic and faulty, do not expect a great marriage even if you marry Holy Mary.
7. Run back to God
I have never seen anyone who made mistakes in their relationship and their lives fared well by staying in the more of that mistake.
That you had pregnancy outside wedlock doesn’t mean you must marry that person. I’m sure you know that pregnancy doesn’t make a wrong man or woman right; being right is tied to the correctness of your mindset as it conforms to scriptural truths.
Do you remember the story of the prodigal son?
His life fared well when he sat down and came back to his sense, then he returned to his father. God is too loving to cast you away because you made a mistake.
Never believe in the lies of the devil that you won’t see a man that would marry you because you have a child outside marriage. It’s a lie that you can’t be married to. a virgin because you lose yours.
Run back to God in genuine and godly sorrow that leads to repentance that can’t be repented of. Wipeout that crocodile tears and return to God. God doesn’t deal with us according to our mistakes. He deals with everyone who has repented genuinely and stand on His righteousness through Jesus Christ.
Do not believe that your sins are too big to be forgiven. Jesus forgave as many as those who came to Him for forgiveness. You don’t need a priest to be forgiven, if you confess and forsake it, you’ll obtain His mercy.