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Brothers, before you start crying that Amaka embezzled your money, borrow some sense before you start spending like Father Christmas. Some women like to receive money when they see a generous man spend without restrain.
And my sister, define your relationship with that brother before you’d be shocked to see his wedding invite with another sister. After all, he didn’t promise you marriage, you’re the one who is thinking that way when nothing was happening in that direction.
There are several reasons why you must define your relationship with that man or lady before “love” blinds your eyes and mind.
First of all, a defined relationship prevents one or two of you from going too far.
When there are no boundaries, touching can be indecent, affection can be inordinate, communication can be sensual, and before you know it, you’ll land in the bed of fornication.
And like they say, a closed mouth is a closed destiny; in short, an undefined relationship is a disaster waiting to happen. When a relationship isn’t defined, it has no destination. It can head north today and go east tomorrow.
Is this how you want to live your life?
By defining your relationship, ask questions. Where’s this relationship heading? Who am I to you? Are we just boyfriend and girlfriend or we are in for a relationship leading to marriage?
In the case of opposite-sex relationships, time doesn’t tell, instead it counts. And before you’d say, Jack, you would have wasted 2 or 5 years on a relationship that has no bearing or basis.
Define your relationship to avoid time wasters.
Some brothers can waste your time like tissue paper. You’ll wash his clothes, clean his house, and cook food for him (who send you all these), yet he won’t discuss anything serious with you.
And you’ll think some ladies are into you, but they’re in your life just because of what they get from you. Please, define your relationship to avoid a story that touches you.
Defining your relationship isn’t desperation, it’s called wisdom and time management.
If he’s monitoring your life like a drone, ask questions. If she is jealous of seeing ladies around you, define the relationship so you can both know where you belong.
Time wasters can build a canopy over your life. They will prevent good people from coming into your life and they will prevent you from meeting potential suitors because of the fake or unclear signs they manifest.
Anyone who comes into your life within the space of six months and shows signs of desiring a relationship but fails to verbalize it, in your interest, it would be wise you take the initiative and define the relationship except if you’re not ready for a serious commitment.
Lastly, define your relationship to avoid assumptions.
A relationship that would lead to marriage isn’t built on speculation, the parties involved know where they’re going. If you don’t define your relationship one of you would assume what is not.
A man and woman in an undefined relationship would assume they’re “going out” when there’s nothing of such between them. Why guess when you can clarify? Don’t assume something will happen when nothing has been set in motion.
Assumption is like building castles in the air. It’s like living in a fool’s paradise. It’s a mirage you found out it’s not true after you’ve traveled some distance closer to it. So, why waste your time on a relationship that has no bearing? Talk. Define your relationship now before it’s too late.